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coping with my dad dying

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my dad has got lung cancer and has weeks to live we only found out a month ago and we are struggling. My dad is not just my dad he is my mate and im watching him die i hate it i cry and cry i try to keep it in when im with him cause he dont like seeing us like it but its so hard people say we are lucky that  we have this time with him to tell him things but my dad doesnt want to hear it he knows i love him and he loves me so theres not much else to say he has now mentioned what he wants for his funeral which is upsetting but atleast we know what he wants but having to see him like this is terrible i just dont want him to  suffer anymore but i dont want to let him go

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    Hi Joanne, 

    im in the same *** boat, my dad has colon cNcer secondary liver (advanced) theres nothing they can do for him now Nd watching him day by day loose a little more of himself if heart breaking. My dads a mans man doesnt do feelings lol but ive seen him cry a few times now and ive done cleaning up of sick etc and i know he hates it we dont talk about the embarrassing things but every now and then he will just msg me and say u do so much thanks and thats the end of the convo. 
     

    I feel like i dont get time to cry im too busy with caring flr him, my son, helping my mum and working, i know i would have cracked by now otherwise. 
    sometimes i wake up and forget its happening to us untill i hear a groan from his room then reality kicks in again and i feel that awful feeling of when we were first told. 
     

    Ur doing amazing considering the circumstances and im always here for a chat xxxx

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    Hi Joanne, 

    im in the same *** boat, my dad has colon cNcer secondary liver (advanced) theres nothing they can do for him now Nd watching him day by day loose a little more of himself if heart breaking. My dads a mans man doesnt do feelings lol but ive seen him cry a few times now and ive done cleaning up of sick etc and i know he hates it we dont talk about the embarrassing things but every now and then he will just msg me and say u do so much thanks and thats the end of the convo. 
     

    I feel like i dont get time to cry im too busy with caring flr him, my son, helping my mum and working, i know i would have cracked by now otherwise. 
    sometimes i wake up and forget its happening to us untill i hear a groan from his room then reality kicks in again and i feel that awful feeling of when we were first told. 
     

    Ur doing amazing considering the circumstances and im always here for a chat xxxx

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