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coping with my dad dying

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my dad has got lung cancer and has weeks to live we only found out a month ago and we are struggling. My dad is not just my dad he is my mate and im watching him die i hate it i cry and cry i try to keep it in when im with him cause he dont like seeing us like it but its so hard people say we are lucky that  we have this time with him to tell him things but my dad doesnt want to hear it he knows i love him and he loves me so theres not much else to say he has now mentioned what he wants for his funeral which is upsetting but atleast we know what he wants but having to see him like this is terrible i just dont want him to  suffer anymore but i dont want to let him go

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    Hi Joanne,

    I understand how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you. I think you are coping really well at this difficult time.  I found out on easter weekend that mum has a brain tumour and only weeks left.It was very sudden and I'm still in shock how quick it has happened, Like you, I try to be strong, especially when I am with her. I have done my best not to cry in front of her.  Mum is loosing her memory, some days worse than others.  She tries to say what she wants me to do after she has died which, is hard to listen to, but then she's forgets and tells me again on the next visit!  Each time we talk about it she is comforted to know that I will deal with everything. I think your dad will feel the same. Hang in there, take one day at a time,  I will be thinking of you

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    Hi Joanne,

    I understand how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you. I think you are coping really well at this difficult time.  I found out on easter weekend that mum has a brain tumour and only weeks left.It was very sudden and I'm still in shock how quick it has happened, Like you, I try to be strong, especially when I am with her. I have done my best not to cry in front of her.  Mum is loosing her memory, some days worse than others.  She tries to say what she wants me to do after she has died which, is hard to listen to, but then she's forgets and tells me again on the next visit!  Each time we talk about it she is comforted to know that I will deal with everything. I think your dad will feel the same. Hang in there, take one day at a time,  I will be thinking of you

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