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coping with my dad dying

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my dad has got lung cancer and has weeks to live we only found out a month ago and we are struggling. My dad is not just my dad he is my mate and im watching him die i hate it i cry and cry i try to keep it in when im with him cause he dont like seeing us like it but its so hard people say we are lucky that  we have this time with him to tell him things but my dad doesnt want to hear it he knows i love him and he loves me so theres not much else to say he has now mentioned what he wants for his funeral which is upsetting but atleast we know what he wants but having to see him like this is terrible i just dont want him to  suffer anymore but i dont want to let him go

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    Hi darling I am in the same boat my dad was working till 5 weeks ago due to the neglect from the nhs he is now dying with cancer. I go and be positive he jokes around but he knows he is dying x I went to see him today he now is in bed he is 75 ! He hasn't even retired x he looked dreadful this morning x 

    We had out cry together on the phone he was crying and I was crying my best friend in the world. He said people have to die Nat. 
    If he can be this amazingly brave and lovely munchkin I will be strong I go into another room have a cry then go back and take this kick out of him x

    Sadly he doesn't have long it is so aggressive he has it all over his body now because the nhs didn't give him chemo or radiation after they operated.

    Need to be strong hun I tell myself that and if I get negative I have a word with myself or I will utterly loose my *** x

    Be with him and be positive he won't want to see you upset and will worry about you. 
    If you need to chat I am here

    hugs 

    Natty xx

     

     

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    Hi darling I am in the same boat my dad was working till 5 weeks ago due to the neglect from the nhs he is now dying with cancer. I go and be positive he jokes around but he knows he is dying x I went to see him today he now is in bed he is 75 ! He hasn't even retired x he looked dreadful this morning x 

    We had out cry together on the phone he was crying and I was crying my best friend in the world. He said people have to die Nat. 
    If he can be this amazingly brave and lovely munchkin I will be strong I go into another room have a cry then go back and take this kick out of him x

    Sadly he doesn't have long it is so aggressive he has it all over his body now because the nhs didn't give him chemo or radiation after they operated.

    Need to be strong hun I tell myself that and if I get negative I have a word with myself or I will utterly loose my *** x

    Be with him and be positive he won't want to see you upset and will worry about you. 
    If you need to chat I am here

    hugs 

    Natty xx

     

     

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