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coping with my dad dying

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my dad has got lung cancer and has weeks to live we only found out a month ago and we are struggling. My dad is not just my dad he is my mate and im watching him die i hate it i cry and cry i try to keep it in when im with him cause he dont like seeing us like it but its so hard people say we are lucky that  we have this time with him to tell him things but my dad doesnt want to hear it he knows i love him and he loves me so theres not much else to say he has now mentioned what he wants for his funeral which is upsetting but atleast we know what he wants but having to see him like this is terrible i just dont want him to  suffer anymore but i dont want to let him go

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    Dear jo,

    Just had to say hello and wated to give you a big hug, via the computer.  My dad also has terminal lung cancer, started in his throat but spread and now there is nothing to be done but wait.  My world, like yours collapsed when i was told the news about my dad, my super dad dad, my strong dad, who could beat anyone and anything..i look at him now and he looks nothing like the man he was two years ago, cancer is a horrible, vicious disease that takes the ones we love so much so far away from us..i know you are going through what i will be going through in the next 6/12 months and i can only say be there for the people that need you, your dad, mum, other family members, try and stay strong together..and i know you have prob told him countless times but keep telling your dad just how much you love him..he might not always say it back as he might not always have the strength but please tell him..he wont say it (like my dad) but it will mean the world to him...im thinking of you, please dont feel alone because you are really not xx

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    Dear jo,

    Just had to say hello and wated to give you a big hug, via the computer.  My dad also has terminal lung cancer, started in his throat but spread and now there is nothing to be done but wait.  My world, like yours collapsed when i was told the news about my dad, my super dad dad, my strong dad, who could beat anyone and anything..i look at him now and he looks nothing like the man he was two years ago, cancer is a horrible, vicious disease that takes the ones we love so much so far away from us..i know you are going through what i will be going through in the next 6/12 months and i can only say be there for the people that need you, your dad, mum, other family members, try and stay strong together..and i know you have prob told him countless times but keep telling your dad just how much you love him..he might not always say it back as he might not always have the strength but please tell him..he wont say it (like my dad) but it will mean the world to him...im thinking of you, please dont feel alone because you are really not xx

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