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coping with my dad dying

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my dad has got lung cancer and has weeks to live we only found out a month ago and we are struggling. My dad is not just my dad he is my mate and im watching him die i hate it i cry and cry i try to keep it in when im with him cause he dont like seeing us like it but its so hard people say we are lucky that  we have this time with him to tell him things but my dad doesnt want to hear it he knows i love him and he loves me so theres not much else to say he has now mentioned what he wants for his funeral which is upsetting but atleast we know what he wants but having to see him like this is terrible i just dont want him to  suffer anymore but i dont want to let him go

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    Hello I just want to say your not on your own, yesterday we got told that my dad has officially chosen to be taken of his treatment as it is no longer working and is now making him feel so so weak  and tired so they are sending him home when he is well enough to spend the rest of his time in his garden. But again my dad is my world and yesterday's news made me feel like the world was coming crashing down and j completely agree that you don't want them to suffer but at the same time you don't want to lose them. They haven't given him a time but to the waiting game that I find the hardest. It is every day to the next. I just tell him in a morning that I love him and then last thing at night during the day I don't mention his cancer I just tell him about my day trying for some normality. He is so weak now and sleeps for most the day however the next day he will be ok but then in hours he could be on oxygen it is so hard. My dad has been crying also but only really yesterday when he had to say he was tired and has had enough. I hope you are ok. The world is such a cruel place. Xxxx

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    Hello I just want to say your not on your own, yesterday we got told that my dad has officially chosen to be taken of his treatment as it is no longer working and is now making him feel so so weak  and tired so they are sending him home when he is well enough to spend the rest of his time in his garden. But again my dad is my world and yesterday's news made me feel like the world was coming crashing down and j completely agree that you don't want them to suffer but at the same time you don't want to lose them. They haven't given him a time but to the waiting game that I find the hardest. It is every day to the next. I just tell him in a morning that I love him and then last thing at night during the day I don't mention his cancer I just tell him about my day trying for some normality. He is so weak now and sleeps for most the day however the next day he will be ok but then in hours he could be on oxygen it is so hard. My dad has been crying also but only really yesterday when he had to say he was tired and has had enough. I hope you are ok. The world is such a cruel place. Xxxx

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