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I smoke, I drink, I have cancer. I deserve no support

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Ok, so I have been in and out of this site for 2 years now. But I have never heard anyone talk about smoking, sometimes about drinking, but that all seems okay. Do you know, I have had so much support from people on this site and I hope I have returned it to others in some small way, but never have I had a discussion or seen a discussion about smoking on this site. I fear I will alienate those who have supported me or feel that I have betrayed those I have tried to support I guess. I'm not a tramp (although it wouldn't matter if I was), I'm a successful well paid manager. I have or had cancer for the last 2 years and I smoke and I drink. There it is. I don't need to hear that it's bad, because I know it is. When I was diagnosed, I did give up (both), but when I started to get better, I started again. For me, I just wanted to feel normal again, the old me, not the new cancer victim me. I'm sorry to those that fight this and I continue to press that self destruction button. Obviously I'm not that sorry because I continue to do it. I'm sure this entry will inspire some antagonism or self help support, I just want to tell the truth. I'm sorry. Julie xxx

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    Hey Julie,

    Always good to hear from you hun.....I'll have a large glass of white, not too dry, thanks

    Listen, this is my opinion on your 'bad habits'.......it's YOUR business Julie, no-one has the right to preach to you about it, no-one. I get sick of hearing about what could have caused my cancer 'too much red meat, being overweight, lazy sitting around on your butt lifestyle, age'......(I ate virtually no red meat, I've never been overweight in my life, I WISH I'd had the chance to have a lazy sitting around on your *** lifestyle, and I was well under the 'recommended' age for this cancer).......

    I smoked about 5 a day before diagnosis...I gave up, not because of the cancer but because it could affect how well the treatment had worked (chemo)...then I ended up having a virtually toxic response to Chemo - so that didn't help much eh

    I totally 'get' the wanting to be normal bit........I'm not going to be the one who nags you on this. If you give up smoking it has to be your choice hun, if you continue to smoke that also has to be your choice. No nagging from me coz I know (as an ex-smoker) how damn hard it is to stop - or even to WANT to stop in the first place.

    Hugs,

    Dizzie xxxx

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    Hello Dizzy, Thank you. Dunno what's up with me tonight. I feel a bit lost. I think I feel something bad is going to happen to me. I got this feeling last time and it did. I am now going to beat myself up with a big twig! xxx J

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    hi julie no one deserves to have cancer no,one at all;;;;; nor has anyone got the right to judge;;;; iv just lost my soulmate husband 11/07/2011. due to lung brain cancer i watched him fade away daily,oh yes he smoked he enjoyed his ***,with a cupa coffee,yet my di,died 1968 lung cancer when i was six years old, he worked down the pits he never smoked in his life, so please never say you dont deserve any cancer support,life is for living enjoy live life to the full thinking of you  takecare lots of love from liz xxx 

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