So so sorry for your loss. I also lost my Mum in May she was 50 to ovarian cancer im so lost without her i want to be with her, the thought of life like this is debilatating 

firstly I just want to say I am so so sorry for your loss, losing your mum in such a quick period of time must be really really hard to cope with! I know it's hard but you're doing amazing trust me when I say I know how you feel

I'm 29, I have a little boy, my mum passed aged 68 due to neuropenic sepsis, she was diagnosed with caner in 2014, 2016, 2018, 2021, then in August 2021 she sadly lost her battle, just two weeks before my little boys third birthday, she held on for 10 days in hospital hoping to see my son but because of covid it wasn't possible, on the day she passed I took him in to say goodbye, she could only just move her eyes but she found us at the end of the bed, my little boy gave her a kiss on the cheek said love you, got to the door blew her a kiss said love you bye, I took him to the entrance (2 mins away from my mums room so his dad could take him as little one was getting upset) in the walk to the entrance and the walk back my mum had passed, she had held on just for my little boy.

it's been over a year and like you said I'm still waiting for the storm to hit, I cry and I get depressed but it doesn't feel like the worst has hit yet, and like you I feel like the only person who could make this pain go is my mum and its not possible anymore.

I'm a shell of a person now, the day she died she took my heart with her and if it wasn't for my son I would have done with her that day,

I haven't grieved I've just spent the last year full of guilt feeling like I didn't do enough I was her full time carer and I couldn't save her and this is my punishment.

I really really hope you find comfort I know it's hard to think but atleast your mum is no longer suffering, cancer is a vile desease and I've watched it consume people I love until they're unrecognisable, so as hard as it is please try and think atleast she is at peace and no longer suffering unfortunately I can't give any advice on how to cope with the loss because I'm not coping myself. but if you ever need to talk I'm here, I'll listen :) 

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's not fun grieving someone so close to you, my mum died at the age of 46, I'm still young and can't get over the fact that she is gone. I don't know how long the grieving will go on for but I hope you the best.

Hello, 

My mum died 2pm Sunday 30th October 2022.

I woke up this morning, my second morning waking up without her here and I couldn't breathe. I looked yo Google for help and this thread came up.

I want to say my mum  didn't have cancer, she had pulmonary fibrosis. She was diagnosed 2 years ago and in July we were told she was in lung and heart failure and it was a matter of time and they would not recussitate when the time came. She most likely had til Christmas, maybe longer.

4 months. I wasn't ready, I had til Christmas. I'm not ready.

I hope you don't mind me commenting, I just needed to ask you how you are now?

My mum was 55, im 27. My heart isnt broken, it went with her. This hole in my chest hurts so much.

Hi Limealime, 

I just wanted to stop by to welcome you to the forum and to also offer you my sincerest condolences for your loss.

I can't begin to imagine what you're going through at the moment but our community are very supportive and hopefully RSxo will let you know how they're getting on soon.

We're thinking of you Limealime and I hope this article we have about coping with grief can provide some strength and comfort to you at this time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello,

It's the worst and I really feel for you. I lost my Dad when I was 26 (he was 52) and my Mum this year ( I'm 49), both to cancer. Losing Dad at that age was completely devastating. It was lovely to just have those few precious years of having an adult friendship with Dad which was so cruelly taken away.

Mum died on her 78th birthday (stomach cancer). I miss our weekend chats on the phone where we'd talk about anything that occurred to us, but more often than not she'd boast about getting a Pointless answer (from the tv show). We should have gone on there!

Losing Mum at 49 is a very different experience to losing Dad at 26. I felt forever broken when Dad died, because he was the rock of our family and my Mum was in bits. Somehow I survived it, but I stupidly went cold turkey off the anti depressants and became temporarily disassociative.. (I DO NOT recommend this). It was tough. Talking therapy, would've, in hindsight, been ideal. 

I guess time and experience really has helped me this time round; plus having two fabulous young adult children and a husband who gets it. However, Christmas is going to be weird for all of us. 

I'm missing Mum as I write and if she were around (she lost her Mum at 24) she'd want to tell you how for her it was the hardest thing too; so take one day at a time and make connections, and rest, and talk to her when she's the one who'll understand. 

Weekends are still tough though. I hope you'll be ok x

Take care x 

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, losing your mum truly is the most heartbreaking thing that will ever happen to you. At the same time, it's something we're never prepared for. 
It's still very early days for you, and still very raw. With time, the pain won't feel as intense as it does now- I promise you that. You'll remember the good times you had, how amazing your mum was and how lucky you were to have a love so pure and unconditional. But at the same time, it is okay to feel like you're suffocating, it's okay to feel like a part of you is missing- because it is missing, you are half of your mum.

Give yourself time to feel. 
There's always people on here that are willing to talk, and know how you're feeling- so please reach out to me whenever you want. 
 

Sending you so much love and prayers x

Hey RSxo,

So sorry for your mammoth loss. It's awful losing your Mum so young, 55 is no age... and you only in your 20s, I'm really sorry for you  

Nobody tells you that bereavement (especially when it is a real shock) can be physically painful. Getting only 7 weeks to absorb the diagnosis before she passed must have been surreal. At only 3 months of having lost her (and at the time of typing this post) you must have been numb and still in shock. You probably now know, It will get easier, you will still hurt and you will still cry but you will survive. You will survive and you will smile again and you will laugh again.

My mum passed almost 10 years ago in a tragic accident, she was 66.  Retrospectively, I believe I was in shock for about 2 years.  A bit of my soul died with her.  At the time I really thought I was going to die but I didn't - I'm still here, almost ten years on....   I found your post by typing "I miss my Mum so much" into Google because I missed her so much today and just wanted to speak with her and give her a hug - that never goes away.....  But I have mostly great days and I laugh a lot when I think of our conversations, her quirkiness and I wish so badly she could see my daughter now (who is so like her).  I talk to her (my mum, in my head) and imagine what her opinion would be.  Fact is, we were born of our Mother's, we lived inside them for almost a year, we are a physical part of them and them of us and - if you really consider it,  we are them - in a way. And in that very simple term - our Mums are still very much with us.  Your Mum I'd your Mum, that will NEVER change and you will ALWAYS be her daughter.  When the tears begin to fall, let them - you will survive and I believe your Mum is right there beside you ️  

Wishing you so much love, hope and happiness RSxo ️ 

This is soo me now, I held my mum's hand til she took her last breath 4 days ago after being diagnosed with bowel cancer 8 weeks ago, I feel numb and feel that everybody else is doing the grieving for me, it doesn't feel like it's me going through it and I'm just outside looking in.