Hello, 

My mum died 2pm Sunday 30th October 2022.

I woke up this morning, my second morning waking up without her here and I couldn't breathe. I looked yo Google for help and this thread came up.

I want to say my mum  didn't have cancer, she had pulmonary fibrosis. She was diagnosed 2 years ago and in July we were told she was in lung and heart failure and it was a matter of time and they would not recussitate when the time came. She most likely had til Christmas, maybe longer.

4 months. I wasn't ready, I had til Christmas. I'm not ready.

I hope you don't mind me commenting, I just needed to ask you how you are now?

My mum was 55, im 27. My heart isnt broken, it went with her. This hole in my chest hurts so much.

Hello, 

My mum died 2pm Sunday 30th October 2022.

I woke up this morning, my second morning waking up without her here and I couldn't breathe. I looked yo Google for help and this thread came up.

I want to say my mum  didn't have cancer, she had pulmonary fibrosis. She was diagnosed 2 years ago and in July we were told she was in lung and heart failure and it was a matter of time and they would not recussitate when the time came. She most likely had til Christmas, maybe longer.

4 months. I wasn't ready, I had til Christmas. I'm not ready.

I hope you don't mind me commenting, I just needed to ask you how you are now?

My mum was 55, im 27. My heart isnt broken, it went with her. This hole in my chest hurts so much.

Hi Limealime, 

I just wanted to stop by to welcome you to the forum and to also offer you my sincerest condolences for your loss.

I can't begin to imagine what you're going through at the moment but our community are very supportive and hopefully RSxo will let you know how they're getting on soon.

We're thinking of you Limealime and I hope this article we have about coping with grief can provide some strength and comfort to you at this time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello,

It's the worst and I really feel for you. I lost my Dad when I was 26 (he was 52) and my Mum this year ( I'm 49), both to cancer. Losing Dad at that age was completely devastating. It was lovely to just have those few precious years of having an adult friendship with Dad which was so cruelly taken away.

Mum died on her 78th birthday (stomach cancer). I miss our weekend chats on the phone where we'd talk about anything that occurred to us, but more often than not she'd boast about getting a Pointless answer (from the tv show). We should have gone on there!

Losing Mum at 49 is a very different experience to losing Dad at 26. I felt forever broken when Dad died, because he was the rock of our family and my Mum was in bits. Somehow I survived it, but I stupidly went cold turkey off the anti depressants and became temporarily disassociative.. (I DO NOT recommend this). It was tough. Talking therapy, would've, in hindsight, been ideal. 

I guess time and experience really has helped me this time round; plus having two fabulous young adult children and a husband who gets it. However, Christmas is going to be weird for all of us. 

I'm missing Mum as I write and if she were around (she lost her Mum at 24) she'd want to tell you how for her it was the hardest thing too; so take one day at a time and make connections, and rest, and talk to her when she's the one who'll understand. 

Weekends are still tough though. I hope you'll be ok x

Take care x