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V.upset; should I include wife's name on Xmas cards to kids?

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I feel so stupid. been just over five months since my wife died from aggressive cancer. I can talk about the lead up to when she had her final week.

But when it comes down to the details of her final few days I get images and thoughts of how much she had to go through.

Now because this is my first year without my wife for Christmas  and new year, I'm  feeling so stupid about getting upset writing  on Christmas cards to my son and daughter, my minds just gone blank.

I don't know if I still need to inclued the wife as mum on there cards. I don't want them thinking I have forgot her already, which I know will never happen till the day I die..

I just can't think of what to put to inclued their mum. Any advice would  help.

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    I know how you feel, I lost my husband in June this year. I am not sending cards this year, it's just too upsetting. It will be difficult, first Christmas without your wife, and without my husband. We just have to give ourselves time, but we will never get over it. But life does go on, I just hope I get to feel a little better, the grief and pain of losing your loved one is horrendous. 

    i don't know what to say about to you about cards, but I am sure they know how difficult this time of year is for you all. 

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    I know how you feel, I lost my husband in June this year. I am not sending cards this year, it's just too upsetting. It will be difficult, first Christmas without your wife, and without my husband. We just have to give ourselves time, but we will never get over it. But life does go on, I just hope I get to feel a little better, the grief and pain of losing your loved one is horrendous. 

    i don't know what to say about to you about cards, but I am sure they know how difficult this time of year is for you all. 

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