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V.upset; should I include wife's name on Xmas cards to kids?

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I feel so stupid. been just over five months since my wife died from aggressive cancer. I can talk about the lead up to when she had her final week.

But when it comes down to the details of her final few days I get images and thoughts of how much she had to go through.

Now because this is my first year without my wife for Christmas  and new year, I'm  feeling so stupid about getting upset writing  on Christmas cards to my son and daughter, my minds just gone blank.

I don't know if I still need to inclued the wife as mum on there cards. I don't want them thinking I have forgot her already, which I know will never happen till the day I die..

I just can't think of what to put to inclued their mum. Any advice would  help.

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    HI  Bloops,these times Christmas,birthdays,Anniversaries  are a difficult time when we face them.for the first time when a loved one is lost,and I can understand your painfull emotional thoughts during this difficult time at Christmas. 

    Im sure yoor children how ever old thry are are have  feelings very simular to yours  this Christmas. 

    I myself would write out the Christmas cards to send to them and maybe put love from Dad and I know your mum will be looking down on us all and sending her love to us all too this Christmas. .  

    It may not be right for you,but its just a nice way of including your wife  in wishing them all a happy Christmas,as to be honest you know in your heart she woukd wish you all excactly this. Hope this msg helped. Xxx

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    BLOBS

    HI  Bloops,these times Christmas,birthdays,Anniversaries  are a difficult time when we face them.for the first time when a loved one is lost,and I can understand your painfull emotional thoughts during this difficult time at Christmas. 

    Im sure yoor children how ever old thry are are have  feelings very simular to yours  this Christmas. 

    I myself would write out the Christmas cards to send to them and maybe put love from Dad and I know your mum will be looking down on us all and sending her love to us all too this Christmas. .  

    It may not be right for you,but its just a nice way of including your wife  in wishing them all a happy Christmas,as to be honest you know in your heart she woukd wish you all excactly this. Hope this msg helped. Xxx

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