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V.upset; should I include wife's name on Xmas cards to kids?

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I feel so stupid. been just over five months since my wife died from aggressive cancer. I can talk about the lead up to when she had her final week.

But when it comes down to the details of her final few days I get images and thoughts of how much she had to go through.

Now because this is my first year without my wife for Christmas  and new year, I'm  feeling so stupid about getting upset writing  on Christmas cards to my son and daughter, my minds just gone blank.

I don't know if I still need to inclued the wife as mum on there cards. I don't want them thinking I have forgot her already, which I know will never happen till the day I die..

I just can't think of what to put to inclued their mum. Any advice would  help.

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    Hey, 

    I am daughter, I lost my dad 20 months ago at 58 and I was 31. 
    Everyone is different and we have had this conversation, my mum really struggles with cards, but I like her to write love mum and dad because he is still my dad. 
    We call him our brightest star in the sky so sometimes she writes that as well. 
    I think it's still lovely to speak about them and include them in one way or another, but maybe even speak to your children and explain how you feel and what they would like. 

    if you can't bring yourself to then 'love always x' 

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    Hey, 

    I am daughter, I lost my dad 20 months ago at 58 and I was 31. 
    Everyone is different and we have had this conversation, my mum really struggles with cards, but I like her to write love mum and dad because he is still my dad. 
    We call him our brightest star in the sky so sometimes she writes that as well. 
    I think it's still lovely to speak about them and include them in one way or another, but maybe even speak to your children and explain how you feel and what they would like. 

    if you can't bring yourself to then 'love always x' 

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