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Mother-in-law hasn't phoned me since my mum died

Clare-lovemymum
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My mum passed away on 11th May 2020 and her funeral was 1st June.  I haven't heard at all from my mother in law and I am disgusted with her behaviour.  Not even a call when my mum passed, not even a message.

I have had messages from her friends but nothing from her.  I mentioned it to my husband but he hasn't said a word, he just shrugged.  I am so hurt by this.  I haven't heard from my sister in law either.  

I have an OK relationship with my mother in law, I've been getting her shopping during lockdown etc and would occasionally call her to see how she was.  I'm honestly lost for words.

I've decided I'm done with them as they have hurt me so much.   I cannot get my head around it

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    Hi Clare,

    I just wanted to say that I know exactly how you feel. My lovely mum passed away in June last year and my mother in law did not ring or message me at all. I left it for a long time as I did not see why it should be me ringing her. It was October before I decided to ring her and try to be the bigger person. But then I was so cross with myself for giving in and also felt likeu I'd betrayed my mum in some way.

    The thing I find though is tbh whatever she says about what happened with my mum just winds me up, my mum and her could not have been any different and actually talking to her makes me feel worse! 

    I've found out since losing mum who I can rely upon and I'm finding that, that is becoming a smaller number.

     

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    Hi Clare,

    I just wanted to say that I know exactly how you feel. My lovely mum passed away in June last year and my mother in law did not ring or message me at all. I left it for a long time as I did not see why it should be me ringing her. It was October before I decided to ring her and try to be the bigger person. But then I was so cross with myself for giving in and also felt likeu I'd betrayed my mum in some way.

    The thing I find though is tbh whatever she says about what happened with my mum just winds me up, my mum and her could not have been any different and actually talking to her makes me feel worse! 

    I've found out since losing mum who I can rely upon and I'm finding that, that is becoming a smaller number.

     

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