Hi, I've been feeling a bit the same way since my husband passed away two months ago from oseophagus cancer (aged 44). In that time I haven't had one text from my sister-in-laws (his sisters) to ask how the children and I are doing! I think it's really rude and uncaring,  and although I think it's important for the children to grow up knowing his family I don't feel I should have to make all the effort here!  I know they have lost their brother,  but I have lost my partner,  father of my children,  my emotional,  physical,  financial support, my everything!  they still have their partners! It makes you feel like cutting them off, I feel I have to make an effort for our girls sakes  (9 and 13), but it's very hurtful!

Hi, I've been feeling a bit the same way since my husband passed away two months ago from oseophagus cancer (aged 44). In that time I haven't had one text from my sister-in-laws (his sisters) to ask how the children and I are doing! I think it's really rude and uncaring,  and although I think it's important for the children to grow up knowing his family I don't feel I should have to make all the effort here!  I know they have lost their brother,  but I have lost my partner,  father of my children,  my emotional,  physical,  financial support, my everything!  they still have their partners! It makes you feel like cutting them off, I feel I have to make an effort for our girls sakes  (9 and 13), but it's very hurtful!

I truly don't understand how people can be so cruel and lack any compassion for your loss.  How can they not be interested in how you and your children are coping, it's their grandchilden and neices and nephew's.  Were you close to them before this happened?  My Father upset me so much that I told him that I didn't need a relationship with him but that my daughters could still see him.  This really shook him up and he tried really hard to put things right, but it was too little too late.  So what I'm saying is that you can make your feelings known, take a step back and reassess your own feelings towards them, they should be helpful not abandoning you.  As the old saying goes, you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends.  My friends were far more compassionate toiwards me than my own Father, he's long dead but my friends still love me and appreciate me.  A truly horrible situation for you and Claire, my heart goes out to you both.  Love Carol x