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Mother-in-law hasn't phoned me since my mum died

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My mum passed away on 11th May 2020 and her funeral was 1st June.  I haven't heard at all from my mother in law and I am disgusted with her behaviour.  Not even a call when my mum passed, not even a message.

I have had messages from her friends but nothing from her.  I mentioned it to my husband but he hasn't said a word, he just shrugged.  I am so hurt by this.  I haven't heard from my sister in law either.  

I have an OK relationship with my mother in law, I've been getting her shopping during lockdown etc and would occasionally call her to see how she was.  I'm honestly lost for words.

I've decided I'm done with them as they have hurt me so much.   I cannot get my head around it

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    Hi this happnd to me when i lost my partner some of my brothers and sisters let me down so that was it for them .it seems to be quite common place this sort of thing deaths a funny thing we dont know how to deal with it till we have been through it themselves i agree with dor6 ime a man i wouldnt shrug my shoulders yes tell him to go shopping and take to his mums if he does and yes he should side with you on it if you can't rely on him who can you rely on but wait a while when we loose a loved one we go a bit bonkers and lodgic and rashonal goes out of the window just wait til your feeling a bit more level it all may seem diffrent then of course its up to you ime so sorry for your loss .paul

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    Hi this happnd to me when i lost my partner some of my brothers and sisters let me down so that was it for them .it seems to be quite common place this sort of thing deaths a funny thing we dont know how to deal with it till we have been through it themselves i agree with dor6 ime a man i wouldnt shrug my shoulders yes tell him to go shopping and take to his mums if he does and yes he should side with you on it if you can't rely on him who can you rely on but wait a while when we loose a loved one we go a bit bonkers and lodgic and rashonal goes out of the window just wait til your feeling a bit more level it all may seem diffrent then of course its up to you ime so sorry for your loss .paul

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