Hey, not really sure how this works with forums n stuff. Obviously done a wee bit googling which was hard enough in itself. Right. My wife succumbed to cancer recently. To open up, I had recently asked Janice to marry me after 14 years of us being together. Liked our holidays , went here n there but she always wanted to go on a cruise which we did in September and it was absolutely amazing  I asked her to marry me during the most beautiful sunset in Santorini you will ever see, sorry detracting.. so we planned to get married in 2020  (amazing place picked by Janiice) all booked up so all was looking good. Until .. eh how do I do this  she hadn’t been feeling that well so they sent her away with tablets for all manner of things  

my love, janice died 19 days after she was diagnose

Hi lost love . Sorry about your wife loosing a partner truely is one of the worst or the worst painful things i bet you feel robbed there is absolutly nothing i can say thats going to help with your .pain i can only suggest what i did when i lost my liz just over a year ago we were talking about goinging away in our caravan after second session of chemo in two days she was gone so understand what a shock it must have she had a massive stroke and contracred sepsis. I put a post on about getting married but like you we had no time she couldnt spk . Its a horrible thing but i i fe her around me maybe you will to at the moment you will be feeling so raw but give it time . Maybe look to some bereavment counciling it sounds like it may help as with me we are alone and the peron our friend confidant has gone . But i tell you this this agony dosnt last forever the pain does dwindle dosnt mean the loves gone liz ls always in the back of my mind its painful but a comfort to . Tell you what i did i did a small service with the engagment ring after the funeral doing our marrage vows as it was so important to her we marry then i have done it. in law maybe not but in life it is ive learned and been told by a good wise friend how lucky we are to have found love many dont .so it may not seem it but you truely were . .keep coming on and talking talking is truely the only way to get through this go out for walks in the park being in nature helps i i used to hate it had to drag myself out but when i got home the house just seemed that bit brighter i joined a social group used to go out for odd meal being around like people just took my mind off it fo an hour and there was people there that understood because they had been through similer i used to think how lucky women were as a rule to live slightly longer than us i dont think that now .so these things are what i did to help and they did to a point and thats good enough i think best wishs .paul and again so sorry your not alone on here its a club no one wants to be in but its i comfort to be in if you let it . I only mention how i i dealt with my loss to try and give you comfort as at the moment ime not so bad didnt want to try and steal your grief just so you know i understand and your not alone

Hi lost love . Sorry about your wife loosing a partner truely is one of the worst or the worst painful things i bet you feel robbed there is absolutly nothing i can say thats going to help with your .pain i can only suggest what i did when i lost my liz just over a year ago we were talking about goinging away in our caravan after second session of chemo in two days she was gone so understand what a shock it must have she had a massive stroke and contracred sepsis. I put a post on about getting married but like you we had no time she couldnt spk . Its a horrible thing but i i fe her around me maybe you will to at the moment you will be feeling so raw but give it time . Maybe look to some bereavment counciling it sounds like it may help as with me we are alone and the peron our friend confidant has gone . But i tell you this this agony dosnt last forever the pain does dwindle dosnt mean the loves gone liz ls always in the back of my mind its painful but a comfort to . Tell you what i did i did a small service with the engagment ring after the funeral doing our marrage vows as it was so important to her we marry then i have done it. in law maybe not but in life it is ive learned and been told by a good wise friend how lucky we are to have found love many dont .so it may not seem it but you truely were . .keep coming on and talking talking is truely the only way to get through this go out for walks in the park being in nature helps i i used to hate it had to drag myself out but when i got home the house just seemed that bit brighter i joined a social group used to go out for odd meal being around like people just took my mind off it fo an hour and there was people there that understood because they had been through similer i used to think how lucky women were as a rule to live slightly longer than us i dont think that now .so these things are what i did to help and they did to a point and thats good enough i think best wishs .paul and again so sorry your not alone on here its a club no one wants to be in but its i comfort to be in if you let it . I only mention how i i dealt with my loss to try and give you comfort as at the moment ime not so bad didnt want to try and steal your grief just so you know i understand and your not alone