My husbands pancreatic cancer story.

Hi everyone, I am new here and feel I need to share my story with you all. My husband turned 51 this year and was a fit and healthy man, never smoked or drank. Went to the gym regularly and did the London to Brighton bike ride last for his 50th. We had a lovely week away this June to celebrate my 50th and had many plans for the rest of this year. He started to feel a little unwell feeling full quickly after eating at the end of June. Went to the doctors and they gave him some gastric reflux tablets. He then had pain under his right ribs and in his back which got worse and he couldn’t sleep laying down. Went back to the doctors which they done blood tests which the showed up with high liver enzymes, this then quickly escalated to an urgent ultrasound and on Friday 13th July, he was confirmed with many tumours on his liver, he was already jaundiced and we were told they believed it was cancer from the pancreas but there was no surgery options, possibly chemo if they could sort the jaundice. My husband deteriorated quickly and was admitted to  hospital on the 22nd July and passed away on the 29th July. We had been together 31 years. I had never dealt with cancer in the family and have found his death very difficult as he had very few symptoms before this diagnosis and we had no time to come to terms with it, only 2 weeks from being diagnosed to his passing. I am missing him terribly and not sure if I will ever come to terms with my loss.

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  • Debbie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father first of lung cancer in 1998, then my mother of lung cancer in 2000, then my sister (who was like a 2nd mom to me) in 2014 of liver cancer..and this year my husband was diagnosed in May 2018 with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and started his first treatment in June 2018 and has been in severe physical and emotional pain since the first scary CT scan. I know all to well the suffering and dispair this disease causes children, siblings and spouses. I am currently going through the nightmare for the fourth time!! All I can say is that it does get easier with time, although it may not seem it right now, but unfortunately I'm speaking from experience and can say it will but its going to take time. I know I probably don't have much time left with my husband I just hope the doctors can manage his pain better for the time he does have left! God bless those that have gone or are currently going through this.

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  • Debbie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father first of lung cancer in 1998, then my mother of lung cancer in 2000, then my sister (who was like a 2nd mom to me) in 2014 of liver cancer..and this year my husband was diagnosed in May 2018 with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and started his first treatment in June 2018 and has been in severe physical and emotional pain since the first scary CT scan. I know all to well the suffering and dispair this disease causes children, siblings and spouses. I am currently going through the nightmare for the fourth time!! All I can say is that it does get easier with time, although it may not seem it right now, but unfortunately I'm speaking from experience and can say it will but its going to take time. I know I probably don't have much time left with my husband I just hope the doctors can manage his pain better for the time he does have left! God bless those that have gone or are currently going through this.

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