My husbands pancreatic cancer story.

Hi everyone, I am new here and feel I need to share my story with you all. My husband turned 51 this year and was a fit and healthy man, never smoked or drank. Went to the gym regularly and did the London to Brighton bike ride last for his 50th. We had a lovely week away this June to celebrate my 50th and had many plans for the rest of this year. He started to feel a little unwell feeling full quickly after eating at the end of June. Went to the doctors and they gave him some gastric reflux tablets. He then had pain under his right ribs and in his back which got worse and he couldn’t sleep laying down. Went back to the doctors which they done blood tests which the showed up with high liver enzymes, this then quickly escalated to an urgent ultrasound and on Friday 13th July, he was confirmed with many tumours on his liver, he was already jaundiced and we were told they believed it was cancer from the pancreas but there was no surgery options, possibly chemo if they could sort the jaundice. My husband deteriorated quickly and was admitted to  hospital on the 22nd July and passed away on the 29th July. We had been together 31 years. I had never dealt with cancer in the family and have found his death very difficult as he had very few symptoms before this diagnosis and we had no time to come to terms with it, only 2 weeks from being diagnosed to his passing. I am missing him terribly and not sure if I will ever come to terms with my loss.

Parents
  • Hi [@Debbie51]‍  firstly I read your post and it made me cry. 

    Im 25 and my dad has pancreatic cancer stage 4, and is very jaundice. We have been told they cannot treat it, he’s not eating and has lost so much weight I hurts to see. Can I ask when you say he suddenly deteriorated what happened? I’m sorry to ask, I’m just filled with anxiety and worry I just feel I need a clearer vision on what may be coming up as I’m really scared. 

    Thank you xxx 

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  • Hi [@Debbie51]‍  firstly I read your post and it made me cry. 

    Im 25 and my dad has pancreatic cancer stage 4, and is very jaundice. We have been told they cannot treat it, he’s not eating and has lost so much weight I hurts to see. Can I ask when you say he suddenly deteriorated what happened? I’m sorry to ask, I’m just filled with anxiety and worry I just feel I need a clearer vision on what may be coming up as I’m really scared. 

    Thank you xxx 

Children
  • Hi, 

    I have just read your post, firstly i’m sorry to hear your dad is suffering from this dreadful cancer. My husband deteriorated very quickly, he was admitted to hospital on the 22nd July as he wasn’t holding down water and his meds, he passed away on the 29th July, so only a week! The doctors told us on the 27th July which was the anniversary of my dads death that my husband would possibly have a week or two, but they wouldn’t let him out of hospital that weekend to come home and he passed away on the Sunday evening. 

    I am so sorry to have to tell this, I feel for you and your family as my son was 25 years old also, we were both with him when he passed away and held his hand so tight, we didn’t want to let go of him.

    I know this is not what you want to hear, i’m Sending lots of love and strength at this difficult time. 

    If you ever want to post me again, please don’t hesitate.

    Debbie51xxxxx