Hi there Dave...

I know that's really hard to live with .. I've got a bro in law, that took a while to get used to his ... l think that's rotten luck to have a relationship breakdown too .. a lot to take on ...

All I can say is the way I coped with my cancer and l had a grade 3 breast cancer... and I had a total right masectomy... which after having 38 DD was a huge difference to having one "normal boob" and one scar ..

But this is how I look at it every day when dressing ... I look at that scar, and instead of seeing the deformed chest .. I see the scar as my war wound ... it tells me of the journey I've been through .. it tells me, the surgeon took my boob, but gave me something back that was far more precious... it gave me " time" ... time with my little granddaughter... who was 5 then, I've now seen her grow to 8 ... and hopefully a few more yet .., 

There's always two ways to look at things... like there's a head and tail on every coin .. l choose to look at heads .., and if someone feels that matters, then they are not worth my time ... life now is about trying to find one thing every day to make me smile ... 

Like the last answer .. talk to your Dr or hospital team, tell them about those leaks, and ask how you can change things ... and if it happens again .. look round, hold your head up high,and tell them its from having cancer ... then those around you will understand .. and anyone that doesn't, it's their problem, not yours .. you can do this ... wer all there with you ... we all have a cross to bear ... but it's how we deal with it .. if you do, others will ... good luck ... Chrissie x

Sorry for the late response. You sound like a very positive person. I know that it is better to have a bag rather than not addressing my rectal cancer, but the accidents really get me down. I suffer with mental health issues, and it doesn't help when I wake up in my own mess. 
Have a Merry Christmas  

Sorry for the late response. You sound like a very positive person. I know that it is better to have a bag rather than not addressing my rectal cancer, but the accidents really get me down. I suffer with mental health issues, and it doesn't help when I wake up in my own mess. 
Have a Merry Christmas