I can’t believe my daughter is gone forever.

My precious 27 year old daughter passed away 15 days ago. She had a very aggressive form of adenocarcina which started in the colon and spread to her lungs and spine. We tried everything to find a way to slow or stop this monster. She fought so hard and suffered horribly. Due to what the hospice nurses said was a metabolic disorder her body would not absorb pain medication properly. Her breathing at the end was exceptionally labored. I held her hand to my face and told her how much i loved her. Now i feel so anxious, afraid and anguished that she is gone forever. She was kind and loving to all and brought shear joy to my life. How do i go on? I have one other adult child who is very different from me and is not supportive of me. I am a widow of 9 years now as well.

Kelley

Parents
  • I have never posted on one of these sites before - it is 9 long years since my adored daughter died from cancer- sorry but the pain is palpable still

    As a parents you feel the loss and guilt that you could not protect your child.

    The way you stood and looked as some healthcare professionals being unkind and unprofessional- how you want to tell them.

    The grief, the sorrow at not seeing them grow up, marry have kids etc is tortuous.

    The way you become the person everyone pities - your  many friends become few.

    I do not cope i carry on - try to keep busy, go to gym walk etc

    Carry on you have no choice - talk to others who have an understanding

    lots of hugs

     

     

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  • I have never posted on one of these sites before - it is 9 long years since my adored daughter died from cancer- sorry but the pain is palpable still

    As a parents you feel the loss and guilt that you could not protect your child.

    The way you stood and looked as some healthcare professionals being unkind and unprofessional- how you want to tell them.

    The grief, the sorrow at not seeing them grow up, marry have kids etc is tortuous.

    The way you become the person everyone pities - your  many friends become few.

    I do not cope i carry on - try to keep busy, go to gym walk etc

    Carry on you have no choice - talk to others who have an understanding

    lots of hugs

     

     

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    Oh KaytO,

    A very warm welcome to our forum. I can so empathise with all that you have said about your beloved daughter. I lost my brother when he was only 28, newly married and, with all of his life ahead of him. That will be 40 years ago next year, yet the pain has never subsided.  My poor mother never recovered from the shock. She too has passed now.

    Friends become few because they don't know what to say to you, the few that stay are your real friends, who are there for you no matter what.

    We carry on because we have to. There are a number of people who have been in similar situations and, these are the people who have the understanding. Talking to them can help both of you to carry on. It may be nine years on, but I can still feel your pain and I offer my sincere sympathy for your tragic loss.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx