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Nearly 8 weeks since mum died

Linda63
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Why on a beautiful sunny day does it feel worse that mum is not here. I've had some ok days with no tears but then you feel that you go backwards and I still can't believe that she's not here. When I was sitting at the computer yesterday, one of the lights flickered, I was on this site at the time, maybe it was mum saying, spending too much time on the laptop!

My dad says he's coping ok and he keeps himself busy in the garden and we went shopping together yesterday; I think the reason it's so hard to bear is also seeing him alone.

I carry mum's order of service with me at work, we had a slideshow of memories and it includes some of the photo's, she looked so beautiful, at every age, everyone says what a beauty she was, but they must also think I'm crazy carrying it around.

Not really sure why I'm posting today, I just feel so sad and miss my mum so much and now can't stop the tears, sorry I know I should be better but sometimes its just hard. 

 

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    I completely understand how you feel and identify with everything you're saying. My mum passed away 7 weeks ago and it is so hard. I also think of her all the time sometimes good memories sometimes bad, as we took care of her at home in the end and it was very hard to see her deteriorate so quickly. I try to keep busy, for me it's the evenings I struggle.  When the grief hits its overwhelming like a huge wave crashing over me and luckily that passes. I too have a lil a little older at 19 months she keeps me going and gives me strength. I am dreading Christmas but I'm determined to have some sort of Christmas as Mum loved it and for the kids too. Just wanted to say I'm  with you in your pain I feel the same your not alone going through this heartache. Just take each day as it comes and take care of yourself xx

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    Hi Ss25, my condolences, so sorry for your loss.

    My mum too passed away at home, to see someone you love so dearly slip away is heartbreaking to watch, you do feel utterly helpless. I have been back at work for a couple of weeks now and it is busy but when I drive to the next meeting, thoughts of mum fill my mind; I used to listen to music in the car but any remotely sad song, I can't listen.

    My mum loved Christmas as well, it's these milestones that will take a lot of courage to get through, my mum and dad would have been married for 60 years on 2nd Dec and I am dreading that day for my dad.

    Thank you for taking the time to reply and kind words, you are right, it is a day at a time. I hope it gets easier for you too. Take care xx

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    Hi Ss25, my condolences, so sorry for your loss.

    My mum too passed away at home, to see someone you love so dearly slip away is heartbreaking to watch, you do feel utterly helpless. I have been back at work for a couple of weeks now and it is busy but when I drive to the next meeting, thoughts of mum fill my mind; I used to listen to music in the car but any remotely sad song, I can't listen.

    My mum loved Christmas as well, it's these milestones that will take a lot of courage to get through, my mum and dad would have been married for 60 years on 2nd Dec and I am dreading that day for my dad.

    Thank you for taking the time to reply and kind words, you are right, it is a day at a time. I hope it gets easier for you too. Take care xx

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