I came across your post from Sept 17 by googling how to cope with loss of husband to cancer and found your post. I am hoping that with your 4 wonderful children, his legacy, that you found the strength to move forward and continue the journey.  A chapter that I am sure you did not want to take but when we are faced with no choice, we somehow find a way.  I recently lost my husband to stage 4 lung cancer, which had spread to his bones. He'd had aches and pains in his shoulder blade and leg which he had put down to work related being a brick layer and then the last 15 as a Taxi Driver.  He was 51, we had 27 years together and two fabulous grown up sons.  I stayed with him in the wonderful care of our St Columbas Hospice for our last 5 days together, I can only say I, probably like you,have been through every emotion imaginable. Two months on, how did I cope: I will not lie, I feel cheated and that life is unfair but have not option but to try and move foreward.  I have thrown myself into volunteer work, to give something back.  I have joined a Gym and welcomed a Cat into our famly.  Keeping busy has helped me and my gorgeous *** cat for comfort in the evenings when I would always overthink! My eldest son has just bought his own house and is in the process of moving out, at 25 I am happy for him and this is his next chapter.  We have gone from 4 to 2 (plus cat) in two months.  My stratedgy keep busy, as I am sure you will have had no option with 4 lovely children.  See friends and welcome opportunities - I had neglected mine as was quite happily married and never found the time to squeeze everything in.  Thankfully they were genuine friends that were always here for me.  I joined a gym, from this I gained focus, concentraining in the gym and finding even after a few sessions I was starting to feel physcially stronger.  Trying out new classes and not expecting to much of myself.   This is not how I wanted to spend my next chapter but feel I have no choice but to try and find what  works.  I do hope you have found what helps you and would love to hear from you ? Very Best Wishes Susan x

Hi I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. I was reading your message and it really related to my family. I lost my husband on June 6th this year . He was absolutely fine then he hurt his shoulder while walking our dog it didn’t get any better so went for an X-ray and they found a tumour on his lung also it was in his bones & liver 6 weeks later it had spread to his brain. I also have two children age 26 &25. I’m absolutely devastated I miss everything about him I’m also trying to keep busy I’ve taken up swimming and went back to work this week. I feel so angry but it’s when that realisation that it’s real it’s actually happened hits me like a massive punch it just floors me . Take care and let’s try and make some sense of this xx

Hi I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. I was reading your message and it really related to my family. I lost my husband on June 6th this year . He was absolutely fine then he hurt his shoulder while walking our dog it didn’t get any better so went for an X-ray and they found a tumour on his lung also it was in his bones & liver 6 weeks later it had spread to his brain. I also have two children age 26 &25. I’m absolutely devastated I miss everything about him I’m also trying to keep busy I’ve taken up swimming and went back to work this week. I feel so angry but it’s when that realisation that it’s real it’s actually happened hits me like a massive punch it just floors me . Take care and let’s try and make some sense of this xx

Hi there sorry to hear about your husband I have just lost my husband too age 54 (9thSeptember) He was fit and healthy until he had a cough at the beginning of May which the doctors just treat for infection with antibiotics and x-ray which they didn’t think was a sign of cancer had to wait 6weeks for another x-ray in which it showed more cover over the left lung then they decided to take it more serious. It was such a long procedure with CT scan showing it had spread to lymph notes .Then had to wait for bronchoscope to see what cancer it was and then for a pet scan which showed it had spread to his spine and hips this took so long until he could finally have treatment! Anyone else had to wait about 6 months ? He finally had 2 lots of chemo and immunotherapy and sadly passed away 5days after chemo . We had been together for 26 amazing years and have got two lovely children age 18 and 16 years this is really hard to come to terms with as we are such a close family just trying to take day by day .