just lost husband to stage 4 cancer

hello, everyone, I am from New York and came across this website that looks so helpful, on August 18th the love of my life passed away from stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his liver, bones, and brain. This is the most painful thing I have ever gone through in my life, I feel so half empty without him. The crazy thing about it is we found out about cancer on August 1st by the 18th he passed away. Everything was such a shock and still is, it's killing me inside not having him here with me especially at night. I look at our four children and the thought that he won't be around for their growing up is unbearable. You know the symptoms did not start to show until July when he started complaining of his back, right shoulder, and arm, he went into the hospital on July 31st and on Aug 1st we found out about cancer, I thought he had months to a year, not two weeks can anyone else who has gone through this with a loved one please tell me how they deal and cope with this because I feel like I am going into depression I cry every day, I miss and love him so much we were together 16 years, I will never have another man like him  

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  • I am so sorry for your loss, my hubby has stage four lung cancer and we are battling through this as I write.  I wouldn't know what to do if I lost him but he would expect me to be strong for our daughter's and I am sure yours would want the same.  Take it a day at a time and let your feelings out.  Rely on others and accept help offered. My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Carol

  • thank you for your prayers, have not been on here in a while, so please forgive me for taking so long to reply back, been dealing with some issues at home, its been eight months today that my husband passed away, although it seems like yesterday it happened, I still have all of his stuff the same as he left it, it helps to bring me comfort when thinking about him, nights are still hard to deal with, because that's when I think of him the most, my 12 year old cries from time to time for him, he took his passing really hard, I am definitely taking it one day at a time, hope all is well with you and your husband, prayers to you, him, and your children, no one knows what it like to deal with a loved one with cancer in less they been through it there self, I pray they find a cure for this evil disease, stay strong for him your kids and yourself, your strong already to deal with what you are dealing with, stay blessed and again thank you for your kind words

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  • thank you for your prayers, have not been on here in a while, so please forgive me for taking so long to reply back, been dealing with some issues at home, its been eight months today that my husband passed away, although it seems like yesterday it happened, I still have all of his stuff the same as he left it, it helps to bring me comfort when thinking about him, nights are still hard to deal with, because that's when I think of him the most, my 12 year old cries from time to time for him, he took his passing really hard, I am definitely taking it one day at a time, hope all is well with you and your husband, prayers to you, him, and your children, no one knows what it like to deal with a loved one with cancer in less they been through it there self, I pray they find a cure for this evil disease, stay strong for him your kids and yourself, your strong already to deal with what you are dealing with, stay blessed and again thank you for your kind words

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