I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no words to ease your pain but I had to reply.

I lost my mum last month to lung cancer post op. I'm currently sat up unable to sleep as its her funeral in 9 hours (it's been delayed due to coroner being currrently involved) and the physical pain I feel is unbearable.

My friend said to me that the pain we feel is testament to the love and memories we have. And she's right. So all I'm doing is allowing that pain, crying when I need to and trying desperately to smile or laugh at a memory with dad or my boys everytime that sadness becomes overwhelming. 

Just take one day at at time, thinking of you and sending strength.

Tracey x

Hi Tracey,

thank you so much for sending me this message when your Mum has also so recently passed away. To know someone is going through the same is a strange comfort and a comfort I wish none of us had to share. I am so sorry to hear your Mum passed away and her funeral is today, I am thinking of you and can only imagine how you must be dreading today. My Mum is having a direct cremation and then I will arrange a celebration of her life at a later date. You are totally correct when you say the pain we are feeling is a testament to all that love and memories we had and when we love that much the pain of losing them and having a life without them is that much more immense. I really feel at the moment it is not real. I went to collect her Death Certificate today and I feel numb. I know I really want to talk to her, we talked hours every day as we lived together, it was just this easy knowledge of being able to walk in the same room and sit chatting, wow how much I am going to miss those chats. I am sharing your pain and if it is any help if you ever need to chat or share something that may help or just express your sadness then I am here and I will try to support you too. Take care and I know today is going to be so so difficult and sad for you all.

Jane x

Hi Tracey,

thank you so much for sending me this message when your Mum has also so recently passed away. To know someone is going through the same is a strange comfort and a comfort I wish none of us had to share. I am so sorry to hear your Mum passed away and her funeral is today, I am thinking of you and can only imagine how you must be dreading today. My Mum is having a direct cremation and then I will arrange a celebration of her life at a later date. You are totally correct when you say the pain we are feeling is a testament to all that love and memories we had and when we love that much the pain of losing them and having a life without them is that much more immense. I really feel at the moment it is not real. I went to collect her Death Certificate today and I feel numb. I know I really want to talk to her, we talked hours every day as we lived together, it was just this easy knowledge of being able to walk in the same room and sit chatting, wow how much I am going to miss those chats. I am sharing your pain and if it is any help if you ever need to chat or share something that may help or just express your sadness then I am here and I will try to support you too. Take care and I know today is going to be so so difficult and sad for you all.

Jane x