Selfishness? and How to stop it

My Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the start of 2013, later that year he was diagnosed with secondary lung cancer, and was medically told there was nothing they could do for him, making his cancer terminal. Only recently he has being diagnosed with cancer of the bones and liver. We are bringing him home from hospital soon to make him as comfotable as possible and pain free. He doesn't have very long left.

My father and me have a very very close relationship, and we also have a very big family meaning everyone wants to spend time with him all the time, but I can't help but feel suffocated by it all, I just want to spend time with my Dad alone, for a good few days at least, I understand that everyone wants to spend time with him also, but that's my dad, my best friend and I just want him to myself. This is so wrong and I know I'm being selfish, but I don't know how to stop feeling like this.

Does anyone have any advice? I'm only 18, I live with just my Dad and 21 year old sister.

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  • Hello Everyone, sorry I haven't had chance to reply to everyone over the past week, just to let you all know my father passed away peacefully this morning. He was in no pain and looked ever so relaxed and just like he was sleeping. I miss him so much already. God Bless You Dad xxxx

  • Amy,

    Whilst sorry for your loss, I am pleased that your Dad had a peaceful and dignified end to his life.
    When my Mum died, we were in a similar position and took comfort from the fact that she had the end that she had hoped and planned for. I hope you and your family are able to take some comfort in this too, despite the unavoidable pain of bereavement.

     

    Best wishes
    Dave

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  • Amy,

    Whilst sorry for your loss, I am pleased that your Dad had a peaceful and dignified end to his life.
    When my Mum died, we were in a similar position and took comfort from the fact that she had the end that she had hoped and planned for. I hope you and your family are able to take some comfort in this too, despite the unavoidable pain of bereavement.

     

    Best wishes
    Dave

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