Selfishness? and How to stop it

My Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the start of 2013, later that year he was diagnosed with secondary lung cancer, and was medically told there was nothing they could do for him, making his cancer terminal. Only recently he has being diagnosed with cancer of the bones and liver. We are bringing him home from hospital soon to make him as comfotable as possible and pain free. He doesn't have very long left.

My father and me have a very very close relationship, and we also have a very big family meaning everyone wants to spend time with him all the time, but I can't help but feel suffocated by it all, I just want to spend time with my Dad alone, for a good few days at least, I understand that everyone wants to spend time with him also, but that's my dad, my best friend and I just want him to myself. This is so wrong and I know I'm being selfish, but I don't know how to stop feeling like this.

Does anyone have any advice? I'm only 18, I live with just my Dad and 21 year old sister.

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  • Hello Everyone, sorry I haven't had chance to reply to everyone over the past week, just to let you all know my father passed away peacefully this morning. He was in no pain and looked ever so relaxed and just like he was sleeping. I miss him so much already. God Bless You Dad xxxx

  • So sorry to see that you have lost your much loved Dad.  Can imagine the hurt you are feeling and the numbness that his news brings you and the family.  Use the forum anytime you feel it would be helpful to chat but the grieving process takes everyone differently and they say time heals.  Always remember the great memories you made with your Dad will remain in your heart always. Condolences at this sad time.Jules

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  • So sorry to see that you have lost your much loved Dad.  Can imagine the hurt you are feeling and the numbness that his news brings you and the family.  Use the forum anytime you feel it would be helpful to chat but the grieving process takes everyone differently and they say time heals.  Always remember the great memories you made with your Dad will remain in your heart always. Condolences at this sad time.Jules

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