Hi Sara,

I'm Nat, I can understand what you are feeling and experiencing. I have unfortunelty lost my mum 6 years ago, she was 57. I find it increadibly tough to talk to my fiancé about what happened and how I feel because he hasn't lost anyone close to him. You said that no one understands, there are people who do, you are not alone, on a planet filled with billions of people there are those who can relate. I was scared of losing my mum too, I thought of everything she would miss out on but you know what she hasn't and she won't, she'll just see it differently. 

She won't forget who you are, even though she is making no sense when she speaks I don't think she will forget you. It is an extremely scarry thought of her not bein around but it hasn't happened yet, cherrish every moment with her. 

You're freightened about how you're going to cope when the time comes, trust me you are strong. You may think you're not but you are. There are many ways in which people cope, there's no right or wrong way because everyone is different. One thing I can promise you is that you have family and a boyfriend who will support you the best they can and no doubt you will do the same for them. 

Take each day as it comes, You made the first steps by writing on here. I hope this has helped.

Take Care Sara x

Hi everyone sorry i have not been able to reply lately i have been so busy this wknd with the wedding. My mum made it thank god :) she saw the whole ceremony and made it untill about 8pm she only missed some of the dancing so she did really well!

The wedding was beautiful and my sister looked amazing it was the most emotional day ever and there were a few toasts and speeches for my mum and it was very hard to not cry! it was a great day.

On a negative mum is getting worse and worse, she is very very thin, she is barely eating/drinking and she is generally very fed up and in pain. I think it is now time for her to go into a hospice but it not up to me its up to her husband. I think the end is very near, i cried a lot last night. I know she wants to make it to mothers day but i dont know if she will. She is very poorly.  The wedding was kind of bitter sweet as we  know the worst is yet to come.

Thanks so much everyone for replying and im sorry i dont have time to respond to you all individually at the minute.

Hope to hear from you all soon and thanks for all the support. Saraxxx

Hi everyone sorry i have not been able to reply lately i have been so busy this wknd with the wedding. My mum made it thank god :) she saw the whole ceremony and made it untill about 8pm she only missed some of the dancing so she did really well!

The wedding was beautiful and my sister looked amazing it was the most emotional day ever and there were a few toasts and speeches for my mum and it was very hard to not cry! it was a great day.

On a negative mum is getting worse and worse, she is very very thin, she is barely eating/drinking and she is generally very fed up and in pain. I think it is now time for her to go into a hospice but it not up to me its up to her husband. I think the end is very near, i cried a lot last night. I know she wants to make it to mothers day but i dont know if she will. She is very poorly.  The wedding was kind of bitter sweet as we  know the worst is yet to come.

Thanks so much everyone for replying and im sorry i dont have time to respond to you all individually at the minute.

Hope to hear from you all soon and thanks for all the support. Saraxxx

Hi Sara,

I am so pleased your mum made it to your sisters wedding. I can understand you when you say it was vey emotional at times. My mother was very ill at Christmas several tears ago when she was in her final stages on cancer but she fought through it and made to Jan 16th. I feel sure she only hang  on that long for she knew if she slipped away a Christmas she was woried it it spoil it fo me and not just that year but every year from then on. I dont know where they find the will to go on at times but they do.

Take care, Best wishes, Brian