Hi Cornpops, although I have no children I have 3 beautiful siblings and their families and more importantly a wonderful 93 year old mum who is bright as a button. You never stop being a mum to your children and as a 65 year old I still am my mums middle girl and need her more than ever now. 

I'm 2016 my younger brother aged 53 was diagnosed with incurable primary liver cancer in his portal vein, he didn't want to tell anybody, lived 200 miles away and consequently, by the time we found out, he was very ill and only lived another 6 weeks. His choice of course but precious time stolen from all of us.

Now 3 years on I find myself with cancer of unknown primary. The future is uncertain, I've been offered radiotherapy and chemo so that buys me a little bit of time. I've made sure to tell my loved ones everything. It's emotional every time we talk especially as I'm in our local hospice at the moment getting pain relief sorted so I can go home and carry on my 30 year role as a carer to my husband. It's made life easier for all of us, no secrets, no promises just love and support and positivity. I wish you and your family all the best. Xx

Dear Twolumps 

I can hear what you're saying. I know when I was told my dad end-of-life realising quickly that resistance was futile. I just needed to be with him,  right alongside him and no in a coping-denial frame of mind. 
just love -that's it. 

Thankyou

Dear Twolumps 

I can hear what you're saying. I know when I was told my dad end-of-life realising quickly that resistance was futile. I just needed to be with him,  right alongside him and no in a coping-denial frame of mind. 
just love -that's it. 

Thankyou