Hello Cornpops. I'm sorry to hear that you are facing this. My lovely mum has been told she was 99.% likely have lung cancer right before Christmas. She told us she was having to go for tests I think around the stage you are at now. It's made us all closer and more understanding. I live away from home but I FaceTime and chat more to show support. I have cried a lot in private for what she is having to face - I'm awake weeping now - but I wouldn't have it any other way myself as I can stand with her, support and care for her. We cried together and I think that is powerful. She had all the tests very quickly and is being brave about it but she is scared and I am so glad she told us when she did. She is keeping me and my sister totally up to date by posting any updates on our WhatsApp group chat. Mum starts her treatment next week - radiotherapy - and I have been able to read around what to expect and how to car for her and support her. 
 

Although I am older than your children (47) I appreciate my mum telling me right at the beginning of her journey. She is my mum. I love her dearly and although it's upsetting and scary, I can be there for her and walk the journey by her side, holding her hand as and when she wants me to. I don't know if other grown up children feel the same? Even if I was younger I'd feel the same. If we know, we can educate ourselves and be less selfish. My mum deserves me there with her and I am grateful for that opportunity. Hope this helps. Best wishes and I hope you have super news soon xx

Hello Cornpops. I'm sorry to hear that you are facing this. My lovely mum has been told she was 99.% likely have lung cancer right before Christmas. She told us she was having to go for tests I think around the stage you are at now. It's made us all closer and more understanding. I live away from home but I FaceTime and chat more to show support. I have cried a lot in private for what she is having to face - I'm awake weeping now - but I wouldn't have it any other way myself as I can stand with her, support and care for her. We cried together and I think that is powerful. She had all the tests very quickly and is being brave about it but she is scared and I am so glad she told us when she did. She is keeping me and my sister totally up to date by posting any updates on our WhatsApp group chat. Mum starts her treatment next week - radiotherapy - and I have been able to read around what to expect and how to car for her and support her. 
 

Although I am older than your children (47) I appreciate my mum telling me right at the beginning of her journey. She is my mum. I love her dearly and although it's upsetting and scary, I can be there for her and walk the journey by her side, holding her hand as and when she wants me to. I don't know if other grown up children feel the same? Even if I was younger I'd feel the same. If we know, we can educate ourselves and be less selfish. My mum deserves me there with her and I am grateful for that opportunity. Hope this helps. Best wishes and I hope you have super news soon xx

Hi emmw, 

Your reply has helped enormously. We are all pretty close. I think it's so hard to stop being mummish and wanting to protect your kids but I know my kids are strong together. 
I don't think I can bring myself to tell my kids until my uni son has done his January exams. It's only 2 weeks and then he's coming back home for the weekend. 
Reading your letter makes me realise I shouldn't leave it any longer than that though. 
You are a previous daughter. I wish you love x