Hi Jolamine

thank you for replying - it’s good to hear from you & to hear of your inspirational journey knowing you’re having a fulfilling life. This can happen to anyone can’t it - it’s so important to cherish what we have and are able to do whether or not we have a diagnosis. It’s certainly got me to evaluate what’s important in my life & to realise that long hours working don’t enable me to spend the time that I want with Steve. That has already changed & will continue to do so. 

Yes he comes to all my appointments with me and clarifies & asks the doctors lots of questions for me as I find myself mute most of the time, ruminating on something they have said that I’ve picked up on and start to pick apart to find a catastrophic journey with. And you’re right about keeping the communication channels open between us. I’m hoping that he does with me although I know he’s trying to be as positive as possible (& is doing a wonderful job) We both have some amazing friends and I know they’re looking out for Steve too. 

My cancer is a grade 2 apparently. I’m not usually so thick but some of the terminology is baffling me at the moment as I’m not used to it. I’ve understood that it’s fed by oestrogen so will be on oestrogen blocking medication as part of my treatment plan when the lymph nodes have been removed. I don’t know any more about the plan yet tho until the lymph nodes have been examined & I'm desperately trying not to analyse every twinge or imperfection and relate it to a spread.

Thank you, & everyone, for your support. I hope to be as supportive back to you as soon as I can. 

Sleep well soon

Helen xx

hi don't be daft I'm a coward no one likes an operation but when they give you the premed it calms you as you know and you will feel like you have only been asleep 5 minutes that's what my second operation was like yes you can buy stickers or the tin I could not put it in the basket for some reason but I will call them once I get my treatment I hope you are more relaxed I'm sure you will be fine lorraine xx

Hi Jolamine, 

thank you for your kind words. It’s great being home . Still not sleeping great but can cope with that . Hopefully the drain will be out on Friday. 

Hope you are keeping well and your son is recovering well also 

Kindest Regards 

j xx

Hi Mejules, 

sorry to hear you are having aches and pains . You are nearly over this hurdle of your treatment so try and persevere. I found nice hot baths, lots of Deep Heat ( that was my new scent ) really helped  and of course pain killers ! 

You are doing fantastic and you will get there . 

Take care 

j xx

Hi [@WarriorWilko]‍ welcome to the thread but so sorry you find yourself here . This group of ladies have been a fantastic support to me and will be to you also . 

I’m 45 was diagnosed in March IDC her2 + , Ed &pr+ , and it’s in my lymph nodes . Had chemo and have had mastectomy and auxiliary clearance last Thursday. It’s a tough long road but you will get there . We have all been there when you feel every little ache and pain and you imagine the worst . I’m sending you positive vibes and support. 

Hope all goes well for you with your results . 

Take care 

j xx

Hello BigJean

It’s good to hear from you - thank you for replying. It’s so good to know we’re not on our own on this journey, although I wish none of us were on it in the first place. I really hope you get your drain out today or tomorrow and that you can catch up on some sleep. You sound very positive though and I know that will really help, both physically and mentally in our recoveries. I’m trying to get there and today has been fractionally easier than yesterday. 

Sending you too my best wishes

Helen xx

Hi Lorraine 

yes, that was my experience for the lumpectomy I had a couple of weeks ago. The anaesthetist was lovely - asked me what gin was my favourite as I drifted off! I spent a while sleeping as I understand they gave me morphine but mercifully I wasn’t sick (another one of my fears on the long list) so whatever combination they gave me really worked.

wishing you a good & positive day today

Helen xx

hi warrior yes the antithesis are good asked me what's your happy place answered in my garden said what kind of flowers was out I never answered lol it's great you have replied and messaged everyone on here so supportive jolamine is so supportive she is waiting on a test big jean lovely too they are brave had a bigger operation than myself yet they take to message you I hope your feeling calmer Lorraine xx

Hello again BigJean

The teams in the hospitals are so good aren’t they? Thinking of happier times we usually associate with a nice g&t is pleasanter than just counting down, I think, don’t you?

I’m so glad to hear you have such a supportive family around you. I’m sure too they understand when you have a good cry. I don’t think we’d be normal if we didn’t react like that sometimes, would we. It’s a terrifying experience.  

Take care

Helen xx