Hi Tony,

My heart goes out to you both. Has your wife been unwell for a while or has this come as a bolt out of the blue? I cared for both of my parents, several family members and close friends with cancer and have been battling it myself for the past 8 years. In this time I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer, so I know just how devastating it can be.

It sounds as if you are doing all of the right things. The biggest thing to help you both along this terrible journey is to keep the communication channels open. This makes all the difference to both of you.

What type of cancer does your wife have and are her care team considering any chemo treatment to slow down the metastases? Does she have any further appointments lined up and have they given you both a prognosis or not?

I am in a similar position with my beloved husband of 46 years just now and, know just how heart-breaking it is to see him fail.  He doesn’t have cancer, but had stents put in 11 years ago, a quadruple by-pass 10 years ago, followed by pneumonia, diabetes, a stroke and, in the past 3 weeks, chronic heart failure. He was rushed back in to hospital for the second time in 2 weeks last night and currently remains ensconced there.

We have been told that no further operations are an option. They are trying to hold him with medication, but so far, it isn’t working. His mother of 94 is receiving end of life care at home, with carers and nurses coming in 5 times a day and his 97 year old father is doing his best to look after her.  It’s a worrying time all round!

All you can do is to live in the here and now and do your best to build memories while you can. Do you have a family or friends who can help you out at this difficult time? Don’t turn down any offers of help, no matter how small or mundane. You’ll find that you really do appreciate them as time goes on.
I wish you both the strength to carry on.

Please keep in touch and let us know if we can be of any help to you. We are always here for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Tony,

My heart goes out to you both. Has your wife been unwell for a while or has this come as a bolt out of the blue? I cared for both of my parents, several family members and close friends with cancer and have been battling it myself for the past 8 years. In this time I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer, so I know just how devastating it can be.

It sounds as if you are doing all of the right things. The biggest thing to help you both along this terrible journey is to keep the communication channels open. This makes all the difference to both of you.

What type of cancer does your wife have and are her care team considering any chemo treatment to slow down the metastases? Does she have any further appointments lined up and have they given you both a prognosis or not?

I am in a similar position with my beloved husband of 46 years just now and, know just how heart-breaking it is to see him fail.  He doesn’t have cancer, but had stents put in 11 years ago, a quadruple by-pass 10 years ago, followed by pneumonia, diabetes, a stroke and, in the past 3 weeks, chronic heart failure. He was rushed back in to hospital for the second time in 2 weeks last night and currently remains ensconced there.

We have been told that no further operations are an option. They are trying to hold him with medication, but so far, it isn’t working. His mother of 94 is receiving end of life care at home, with carers and nurses coming in 5 times a day and his 97 year old father is doing his best to look after her.  It’s a worrying time all round!

All you can do is to live in the here and now and do your best to build memories while you can. Do you have a family or friends who can help you out at this difficult time? Don’t turn down any offers of help, no matter how small or mundane. You’ll find that you really do appreciate them as time goes on.
I wish you both the strength to carry on.

Please keep in touch and let us know if we can be of any help to you. We are always here for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx