Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure. You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you. My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in. It is difficult but you will come through.
Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message. It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away. I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.
Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life. Jules x
Yes the grief rollercoaster is certainly a rough ride and I am keeping you in my thoughts. Glad to read that legalities are getting finalised, although still fail to see how such mistakes could be made. I hope you get some luck with your internet. Many years ago I had a connection problem that the provider just failed to sort out despite my many calls and engineers booked; so in the end I changed supplier - perhaps that may be an option for you if all else fails. Good luck and take care of yourself. Hope x
Just returned from my Friday night social outing (still poor but relaxed). Engineer has sorted connection problems by replacing wall socket and getting rid of interference on the line. It took him all of half hour and thankfully was 'free'. Had a productive day indoors (poor electronic shredder was working overtime and the printer was also kept busy copying documents ready for Probate representative next week (will be going again soon to do the same for all the documents social services finance guys need in regards Mum'shome care costs. Never a dull moment!
Have daughter and grandchildren round in the morning as well as a friend popping in for coffee (builder now coming Sunday to put up new wall) and then its back to work on Monday which will help me get back into 'normal' routine.
Am currently being a bit naughty with a large hot chocolate steaming beside me (well coffee might keep me awake.)
Hope everything is okay with you and sending peaceful thoughts for the weekend. Enjoy. Jules x
I am glad to read that an engineer has managed to sort out your internet connection problems. The issues you have had with the company who are supposed to be looking after one of their customers is unfortunately all too common these days. For them to then ask you to fill out a customer satisfaction survey is just classic! I would love to read what you put.
My furniture delivery went - shall I say - not according to plan. It was arranged for Friday morning so by 10am I was sat in a living room with electrical equipment strewn accross the carpet and boxes full of files and photo albums and all the stuff you accumulate over the years. It seems that because two of the four pieces of furniture weren't in stock they decided not to deliver any of it. And to add to that they also decided not to tell me. After speaking to them I got them to deliver the tv unit and coffee table that they did have which arrived four hours later with a broken shelf. The other pieces will arrive, apparently on Tuesday. I contacted Claire who also has a great deal of experience in dealing with stupidity and she replied with a statement that read, "if only stupidity was painful!"
Rant over and now it's time to get ready for a shopping trip.
Sorry to hear you too have had problems surrounding your furniture delivery and do hope both the broken piece and the rest of your order is in good order when Tuesday comes - why does everything have to take two attempts!!.
Well the weather put paid to my new wall getting started yesterday so have provisional date for next weekend (he is fitting it in, inbetween his day job (son in law's friend so am happy to wait) and the weather needs to be 'reasonable'.
Beautiful here this morning and though am watching Murray(amazing match so far) whilst waiting for a phone call, will be off out as soon as I can for a good walk to blow the cobwebs away.
Enjoy the rest of the day and hope return to work will not be too 'annoying'. Take care. Jules x
Hope you have not got too cold on your Sunday morning walk. Although it's bright and sunny here in Sussex, the wind is very cold. So pleased you have got your internet problem sorted. Funily enough, some years ago I had exactly the same problem, even the same supplier who had been insisting for weeks there wasnt a problem. Am now with another Provider.
Just wanted to wish you well for your return to work tommorow, another step on your journey. I had all this written out once and dont know what happened, if I pressed the wrong button or what but I lost it all much to my disgust. I am glad thing are progressing with regard to your mothers situation and best luck with the form filling, something I hate doing. I find some things they write on the forms are unclear and could have several different meanings so I will be thinking of you.
Take care and I hope you have a relaxing and peaceful day after your walk. Best wishes being sent your way, Brian.
Hi Jules, all the best for return to work. Deep breaths. One step at a time. Distraction may be good for you. You are such a trooper you will do what you can. We are all rooting for you. Kathy xxx
Hi Jules, so glad the engineer has sorted out your internet problems and that you are able to stay online with us without any problems now. Wishing you all the best for your return to work tomorrow. I'm sure it will be strange in many ways, I remember finding it odd returning to routine, as life was going on the same when mine had changed so much, however it was also good to keep occupied. Take care. Hope x
Just a quick message to wish you well on first day back. Im still having issues with ease of use of this site so take advantage when I get in. You seem to be doing well and from my own experience you are doing all the right things. Its good to keep yourself busy: especially in the evenings. Do remember to collect the 2000 pounds government hand out to all widows. You have to ask for it, they scandoously dont just give it.
Just a quick message to wish you well on first day back. Im still having issues with ease of use of this site so take advantage when I get in. You seem to be doing well and from my own experience you are doing all the right things. Its good to keep yourself busy: especially in the evenings. Do remember to collect the 2000 pounds government hand out to all widows. You have to ask for it, they scandoously dont just give it.
Thanks Ian, it was quite a slow and easy return (staff wanting to catch up and those I had not already seenduring previous 'drop ins' having a chat) as Monday reasonably quiet. Another hurdle crossed and so far am managing quite well (bet then no one has upset me yet ha ha).
As to the hands up re Widow Benefit our Probate rep.(now fully appointed and visiting again tomorrow to collect paperwork) also mentioned it and it is already through along with the bereavement benefit which I get weekly for a year. Am using it to get some of the important things done that have been on hold for a few years so come the Summer should be more secure in our back garden!
Hope you and Julie enjoyed your wedding day (not doubt feels like a bit of distant memory now) and you are enjoying your new life together - are the dog and cat talking yet?
