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I feel like a fraud

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Back in October 2020 I had a total hysterectomy and discovered that I had cancer in my womb and on my ovaries. As these were removed I am cancer free. The local cancer unit phoned me and said that I did not require chemo or any other treatment as the cancer was not in my blood. Now I have noticed that when people find out that I had cancer they just look at me like I'm lying because I've still got my hair and have not lost weight. My head is totally messed up at the moment I feel that I can not talk to anyone because to look at me you would never say that I had cancer. If it wasn't for the fact that I have to have 3 monthly check ups you would never know. 

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    Sorry to hear this DTE. 
     

    As others have mentioned you've had major surgery and it's a very scary time been diagnosed with cancer. You know what you've had and what you've been through. Not all cancers and treatments can cause changes in physical appearance and it's unfortunate others don't always no this. 
     

    Im having chemo at the moment, I'm 36 and I have worn some fashion head turbans but kept my eyebrows and eyelashes so far and had no other physical changes. It did upset me initially when people kept telling me how well I was doing especially when I wasn't. I usually see people when I'm having good days and done my makeup and wearing a nice outfit so they don't really see anything bad. Nobody has seen me at my worst.  I think sometimes other people don't really know what to say or find it hard themselves to talk about the upsetting side of cancer so they don't. I hope you do have soneone around you that really understand a hears what you've gone through. There's always an empathic and understanding ear on these forums too.

     

    Best wishes  

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    Sorry to hear this DTE. 
     

    As others have mentioned you've had major surgery and it's a very scary time been diagnosed with cancer. You know what you've had and what you've been through. Not all cancers and treatments can cause changes in physical appearance and it's unfortunate others don't always no this. 
     

    Im having chemo at the moment, I'm 36 and I have worn some fashion head turbans but kept my eyebrows and eyelashes so far and had no other physical changes. It did upset me initially when people kept telling me how well I was doing especially when I wasn't. I usually see people when I'm having good days and done my makeup and wearing a nice outfit so they don't really see anything bad. Nobody has seen me at my worst.  I think sometimes other people don't really know what to say or find it hard themselves to talk about the upsetting side of cancer so they don't. I hope you do have soneone around you that really understand a hears what you've gone through. There's always an empathic and understanding ear on these forums too.

     

    Best wishes  

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