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I feel like a fraud

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Back in October 2020 I had a total hysterectomy and discovered that I had cancer in my womb and on my ovaries. As these were removed I am cancer free. The local cancer unit phoned me and said that I did not require chemo or any other treatment as the cancer was not in my blood. Now I have noticed that when people find out that I had cancer they just look at me like I'm lying because I've still got my hair and have not lost weight. My head is totally messed up at the moment I feel that I can not talk to anyone because to look at me you would never say that I had cancer. If it wasn't for the fact that I have to have 3 monthly check ups you would never know. 

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    Hi these people who don't believe you are not very good friends if they don't believe you.

    I've been living with cancer since being diagnosed, Feb 2016  I was still working part time, I'm on permanent treatment and some chemo . couple of years ago i had to retire to look after my wife who has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's plus other problems. Unless I tell someone what's wrong with me they don't know and if they are told they look at me strange like I'm lieing. I just don't worry about it get on with my life,I always had a bit of paperwork from specialist to show to boss, even though he believed me.just in case., .alot of people  look well before, during and after treatment only someone who's been through it really understands so please just don't let it get to you it not worth it, and some people aren't worth explaining things to.

    Good luck with your future plans.

    Billy

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    Hi these people who don't believe you are not very good friends if they don't believe you.

    I've been living with cancer since being diagnosed, Feb 2016  I was still working part time, I'm on permanent treatment and some chemo . couple of years ago i had to retire to look after my wife who has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's plus other problems. Unless I tell someone what's wrong with me they don't know and if they are told they look at me strange like I'm lieing. I just don't worry about it get on with my life,I always had a bit of paperwork from specialist to show to boss, even though he believed me.just in case., .alot of people  look well before, during and after treatment only someone who's been through it really understands so please just don't let it get to you it not worth it, and some people aren't worth explaining things to.

    Good luck with your future plans.

    Billy

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