hi Ness. I’ve just been diagnosed with breast cancer and I’m scheduled to have a lumpectomy. My husband died in his 40s from pancreatic cancer and I am reluctant to tell my four adult children my news because I don’t want them to be worrying about me. I’d rather tell them when the news is more positive, but it’s left me feeling quite lonely.  I want to share my news but I’m not sure which of my friends would keep it a secret and so I’ve ended up not telling anyone. Like you I’m usually upbeat, positive and the solver of problems. 

I am also sending you hugs and positive vibes. It’s pretty rubbish isn’t it?

Bex x 

Hi Bex, I didn’t tell my adult kids for a while and they were really cross with me. They said that they always want to support me and how would I feel if it was one of them and they didn’t tell me. It made me look at the situation in a different way and I really needed them so glad I told them. Everyone is different in their views or thoughts but having support and not holding it in may help you. Good luck and best wishes x

Hi Bex, I didn’t tell my adult kids for a while and they were really cross with me. They said that they always want to support me and how would I feel if it was one of them and they didn’t tell me. It made me look at the situation in a different way and I really needed them so glad I told them. Everyone is different in their views or thoughts but having support and not holding it in may help you. Good luck and best wishes x