I would seek support from friends and family. I don't know if it makes it easier to hear this but when I've gone through difficult times and had different partners I found that they actually weren't great at all in a crisis or properly there when I needed them. It's always been friends and family who stepped up the most which is sad. But that is a huge reflection on those partners and who they are as people

Thank you for your message Na-o.

Honestly I feel sick in my stomach thinking about him  , just letting the realisation sink in. I have a couple of supportive friends , who are a God send. I think I’m off men for now!

This is heart breaking for you, especially when you need all the support you can get to help you through your treatment. I'm afraid, if I had £10 for every time a 'loved one' has dumped their partner after a cancer diagnosis I would be a wealthy woman. I'm not being sexist but the pattern appears to be that more men dump their girlfriend/fiancee/wife than the other way round - and most do it in a way where they suddenly withdraw from the relationship and don't explain why. I can only speak from the experience of a good few cancer patients I know that this has happened to and the overriding lesson I've learned is that some men are selfish and only stick around while the going is good. 

I know it doesn't help the trauma you are going through but, as others have said, you've learned now rather than after you've sold up, moved miles away & then he's left you high and dry. YOU are the priority here and you need love & support and he's not capable of giving it. Surround yourself with family & friends who care about you, treat yourself kindly and concentrate on getting through your cancer treatment. Negativity that he's brought into your life will only delay your progress so keep your eye on reaching that light at the end of the tunnel. Your life will be full of love & sunshine again, don't waste another thought on someone that would just bring you down. There are resources out there for support if you find it difficult to move ahead - professional ones for counselling or support groups (online or local groups) that will help you put him in the past & find your way forward. When you find a man that's worthy of you, they will love you regardless of illness. Take care x

Angie (Stage 3 melanoma patient since 2009)

Thankyou for your message Angie T

I'm feeling like I had a very close shave and thank God I hadn’t sold my house. Im quite shaken up by it really . At least I found out what he’s really like in the nick of time.  It could’ve been a lot worse. Fate has exposed him. I think someone must be watching over me. I have no family, but my friends are there

Thankyou for your message Angie T

I'm feeling like I had a very close shave and thank God I hadn’t sold my house. Im quite shaken up by it really . At least I found out what he’s really like in the nick of time.  It could’ve been a lot worse. Fate has exposed him. I think someone must be watching over me. I have no family, but my friends are there