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Bf is dumping me

Nayno
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I was diagnosed with stage 2, grade 3 triple negative breast cancer in December 2024. Age 51. My house was up for sale and I was supposed to be moving in with my bf over 150 miles away on the Isle of Wight .  We have been together for 4 years . He came with me for my oncologist appointment on 2nd Jan 2025 and I haven’t seen him since . I have put my house sale on hold now. He has a structural engineering business and uses it as an excuse not to see me. He now says he’s too busy with work , but every weekend he’s arranging to go out with his friends for curry nights, bowling, birthdays and stay at their homes or a hotel . He had time for me before. He would find time for a holiday abroad whenever he wanted, before my diagnosis , so it’s looking like he just doesn’t care. My cancer diagnosis is already hard to deal with , but being dumped in slow motion is the hardest most heartbreaking thing and I’m wondering why am I even bothering with chemo? I’ve lost the will to live.

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    Hi Nayno, 

    Aww this must be horrible for you   yes you're right, a BC diagnosis is hard enough, without the one you should have been able to depend on wimping out. 

    There's not a lot i can say but your life is 100% worth fighting for and being honest, you've had a lucky escape from the BF you were moving your life to be with. He is spineless and can't even be honest with you, stringing you along with excuses like work. You know it in your gut, listen to it and kick him to the kerb. Concentrate on you, getting though your treatment and getting well - I'm 59 and had BC 3 years ago..you got this xx

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    Hi Nayno, 

    Aww this must be horrible for you   yes you're right, a BC diagnosis is hard enough, without the one you should have been able to depend on wimping out. 

    There's not a lot i can say but your life is 100% worth fighting for and being honest, you've had a lucky escape from the BF you were moving your life to be with. He is spineless and can't even be honest with you, stringing you along with excuses like work. You know it in your gut, listen to it and kick him to the kerb. Concentrate on you, getting though your treatment and getting well - I'm 59 and had BC 3 years ago..you got this xx

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    Hi Boomer1965

    thank you for your strong and powerful message. It’s just what I needed.  I know you’re right. I need to pull myself together and be strong. I guess everything happens for the right reason and luckily I got cancer before selling up and therefore he got exposed for what he really is! Thank you and congratulations on beating BC xxx

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