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My mum has recently been diagnosed

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Hi everyone, I’m in my 30s and lost my dad a few years ago. Mum has recently been diagnosed with cancer but we are still to find out exactly what stage and grade. Over 62 days ago today (8 June) my mum was informed by her GP that her cancer marker blood tests had come back high and that she was being referred. Since then it’s been nothing but tests upon tests but no treatment. We have another consultant review in the next week and I’m worried to death. I don’t know what to do or how to prepare myself. We know that the cancer has spread and I’m worried that I won’t be strong enough to support her. Any advice you can share would be greatly appreciated. Thanks 

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    So we have had the update, not necessarily the worst news but it’s still not great. Mums cancer is incurable. Nothing other than that - they still don’t know what the primary cancer and the consultant mentioned that it looks like bowel cancer. How can they not know?!

    We haven’t been told anything about grade or stage but assuming it’s incurable I’m guessing stage 4. 

    The good news - they have said they will start treatment to give us more time. We’re awaiting news on oncologist and next appointment. But again no timespan - it’s so frustrating! I feel like we are being left in the dark.

    Does anyone else have experience with this? 

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    Hi Robinsb,

    I am sorry to hear that your mum's cancer is incurable, but take heart from the good news - that it is treatable. It can sometimes be difficult to identify the primary cancer. Perhaps they'll need to  further tests to see if it is bowel cancer. How has your mum dealt with this news? It can be difficult to take in. Did you ask for a timespan? It is always worth doing this when any further appointments or test results are due.

    I hope that she gets to see the oncologist soon and can get started on treatment.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how she gets on.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Mum sadly passed away on 30th Sept. I am devastated x

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    I'm sure Jolamine will offer her support to you soon Robinsb but in the meantime, I just wanted to let you know your post has been seen and offer you my sincerest condolences for your loss.

    I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through at the moment but I hope knowing that we are here for you can be of some comfort to you at this time.

    Be kind to yourself Robinsb and try to take things one day at a time. 

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    I'm sure Jolamine will offer her support to you soon Robinsb but in the meantime, I just wanted to let you know your post has been seen and offer you my sincerest condolences for your loss.

    I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through at the moment but I hope knowing that we are here for you can be of some comfort to you at this time.

    Be kind to yourself Robinsb and try to take things one day at a time. 

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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