What do I do when my mum has passed?...

Hiya.
 

On the 4th of January 2021, my mum was given the prognosis that she may have 'a short number of months' left. 

 Since the prognosis, my mum has moved in with me. We are spending a lot of time together and enjoying the time we have. 
 

 What I am scared about is what do I do once she's not here anymore? I'm 22 years old. I have no idea how to arrange a funeral or what to do with her bank accounts or other important documents. 
 

 I'm not necessarily asking for a step by step guide on what to do. I'm just confused. I don't know how to go about dealing with any of these kind of tasks. 
 

 Thanks for taking the time to read 

Charlie x
 

 

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  • [@BreadedAuto]‍ 

    I'm so, so sorry to hear the news about your mum. it is however lovely news that your mum has moved in with you, and a testament to your relationship and pure love for each other. I hope in time, you will look back on this fondly and you will cherish the time you got together. Loosing a mum at such a young age feels very painful (I'm a older than you, 33 but my brother is 27 and I know he feels a huge amount of anger). 

    I'm in the process of arranging my mum's funeral, my advice would be to call around a few local directors, asking for costings (some are very, very expensive) and how they are able to support you during this time. Most will only require you to sign a few papers (depending on the type of funeral you will arrange) and they will then take over all the organising. The ones my family have picked for my mum, have been so empathetic and really kind. You should be able to ask them anything, and they will help. 

    I would though, at this time, focus all your time and energy on supporting your mum, but also don't forget yourself too. You will need time to come to terms with what's happened in the past few months, and you will need to keep your strength up. Do you have others you can lean on? Friends or family? 

    If you ever want to message, feel free. I'll be here.

    Sending you a lot of strength and love for the coming weeks, you will be very much in my thoughts. XXX

     

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  • [@BreadedAuto]‍ 

    I'm so, so sorry to hear the news about your mum. it is however lovely news that your mum has moved in with you, and a testament to your relationship and pure love for each other. I hope in time, you will look back on this fondly and you will cherish the time you got together. Loosing a mum at such a young age feels very painful (I'm a older than you, 33 but my brother is 27 and I know he feels a huge amount of anger). 

    I'm in the process of arranging my mum's funeral, my advice would be to call around a few local directors, asking for costings (some are very, very expensive) and how they are able to support you during this time. Most will only require you to sign a few papers (depending on the type of funeral you will arrange) and they will then take over all the organising. The ones my family have picked for my mum, have been so empathetic and really kind. You should be able to ask them anything, and they will help. 

    I would though, at this time, focus all your time and energy on supporting your mum, but also don't forget yourself too. You will need time to come to terms with what's happened in the past few months, and you will need to keep your strength up. Do you have others you can lean on? Friends or family? 

    If you ever want to message, feel free. I'll be here.

    Sending you a lot of strength and love for the coming weeks, you will be very much in my thoughts. XXX

     

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