Hi Charlie

So sorry to hear about your mum. I'm afraid I don't have many concrete answers for you, but I just wanted to reach out and wish you well. Last month I also found out my mum has cancer, and she has since moved in with me, too. Today we found out the cancer has spread and that palliative chemo is our only option. Like you, I'm only in my 20s and feel a little bit out of my depth. 

If you haven't reached out to MacMillan yet, I would recommend you do so. We haven't been properly referred yet, but even calling the support line for initial advice to get us started on the right track for things like finances has been invaluable so far.

I also just wanted to say be kind to yourself and look after yourself as best as you can. If you're anything like me, having cancer take over not just my life / thoughts but also my home in a time where you can't go out and see friends or find distractions has been really hard. However I am glad to have this quality time with my mum, as it sounds like you are too.

Stay safe and sending you lots of warm wishes ️

C x

Hi Charlie

So sorry to hear about your mum. I'm afraid I don't have many concrete answers for you, but I just wanted to reach out and wish you well. Last month I also found out my mum has cancer, and she has since moved in with me, too. Today we found out the cancer has spread and that palliative chemo is our only option. Like you, I'm only in my 20s and feel a little bit out of my depth. 

If you haven't reached out to MacMillan yet, I would recommend you do so. We haven't been properly referred yet, but even calling the support line for initial advice to get us started on the right track for things like finances has been invaluable so far.

I also just wanted to say be kind to yourself and look after yourself as best as you can. If you're anything like me, having cancer take over not just my life / thoughts but also my home in a time where you can't go out and see friends or find distractions has been really hard. However I am glad to have this quality time with my mum, as it sounds like you are too.

Stay safe and sending you lots of warm wishes ️

C x

Hi charlie, So sorry to hear about your mum.  As  CTXO has said, get in contact with MacMillan. They will have information that you will need. When they visit to give your mum pain relief, when it's getting closer to the time. Same sentiment goes out to CTXO.

Because your mum has only so long . I don't know if your mum owned her home or had life insurance, that's personal for you. If your mum knows she does not have long. then you could get permission to contact the bank and ask them what you will need to do. they are very helpful. make sure you ask for names time and date you have spoke to anyone. Especaily  when dealing with insurance companies.

If you have family who can help take on some resposabilities and do some arrangements for you. You are in your early twenties. and I have the utmost respect when family bring someone home to care for them. It's going to be the hardest thing you will ever do in your lives. I just hope and wish you come out of this horrible time stronger.

My wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer last July, and from when it was diagnosed to her passing she lasted 6 weeks. We were married for nearly 34 years. I held her hand when I said I do , And I held her hand when she passed.  Don't worry about funeral costs. they won't expect you to pay, and they won't chase you after the funeral for the cost. My wifes sister took the reigns for the service. I know you will want to give your mum a good send off. and will want the best for her. But having gone through this ordeal. I just wish we had gone for the cheapest funeral. but it's your Mum and will want the best for her. The same advice goes out to CTXO also. But please take any offer that is offered by Macmillan. they will walk you through everything you will need to do. take care of your selves and my thoughts are with you both.