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Hiya.
 

On the 4th of January 2021, my mum was given the prognosis that she may have 'a short number of months' left. 

 Since the prognosis, my mum has moved in with me. We are spending a lot of time together and enjoying the time we have. 
 

 What I am scared about is what do I do once she's not here anymore? I'm 22 years old. I have no idea how to arrange a funeral or what to do with her bank accounts or other important documents. 
 

 I'm not necessarily asking for a step by step guide on what to do. I'm just confused. I don't know how to go about dealing with any of these kind of tasks. 
 

 Thanks for taking the time to read 

Charlie x
 

 

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    Hi Charlie,

    It is 11 years since I lost my mum, I was 28 when she died, so your story struck a chord with me.  The only advice I have is from personal experience so may not be any help to you at all, but wanted to reach out and let you know you’re not alone.

    First of all, enjoy the time with your mum, and try not to worry about what happens after, you won’t get this time back.  If your mum has a will, make sure you know where it is.  If she doesn’t, she can make one if she wishes, there are charities that will help if you have a google they are not hard to find.

    Secondly, no one expects you to have all the answers.  When it is time, there will be lots of professionals that will help to guide you, these people deal with the practicalities of bereavement every day, and they are there to help you.  I was given various lists from the registry office and funeral home etc to make sure I had some idea of what to do.

    Please reach out to Macmillan as already suggested as you are so young to be dealing with this, they will be able to support you and your mum through this incredibly tough time and get you both some additional support.

    Take care x 

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    Hi Charlie,

    It is 11 years since I lost my mum, I was 28 when she died, so your story struck a chord with me.  The only advice I have is from personal experience so may not be any help to you at all, but wanted to reach out and let you know you’re not alone.

    First of all, enjoy the time with your mum, and try not to worry about what happens after, you won’t get this time back.  If your mum has a will, make sure you know where it is.  If she doesn’t, she can make one if she wishes, there are charities that will help if you have a google they are not hard to find.

    Secondly, no one expects you to have all the answers.  When it is time, there will be lots of professionals that will help to guide you, these people deal with the practicalities of bereavement every day, and they are there to help you.  I was given various lists from the registry office and funeral home etc to make sure I had some idea of what to do.

    Please reach out to Macmillan as already suggested as you are so young to be dealing with this, they will be able to support you and your mum through this incredibly tough time and get you both some additional support.

    Take care x 

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