Just lost my Mum

After over 5 and a half years fighting a original diagnosis or 12 months, my mum tragically passed away around 5am this morning 

She had been fine up until Tuesday when she developed a lung and bowel infection, got admitted on Thursday night. Things then got worse however she showed big improvements the next morning. But then took another bad turn 

I managed to get there along with my sister and she was with it and cracking jokes, not scared and not much pain, knew we were there and told her I loved her.

She then went to sleep and I decided to go home for rest with my wife and dad, my sister then rang 3 hours later to say she had passed away in her sleep 

I've been preparing myself for this day for a long time but I am absolutely devastated, can't stop crying, so angry, sad etc and honestly don't know how ill get over it, I miss her so much already 

Her and my dad have been married 47 years, she was only 70 and myself 34 and my sister 27. No age atall to lose our mum.

I really don't know where to go from here :(

Parents
  • Hello Rob

    I just wanted to post on behalf of the whole Cancer Chat team to offer our condolences on the loss of your Mum this morning. It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you and all the family and I'm so glad that you were able to visit your Mum shortly before she passed away. 

    The coming days, weeks, and months will be a real rollercoaster. I know that's a cliche but there will be dark days and days when things are lighter again. grief is a natural process but it can be devastating. Right now be kind to yourself Rob. Allow yourself to cry and to feel the emotions that wash over you. Take things a day at a time and if that feels too much right now, then an hour at a time. 

    There are many members here on the forum who will understand what you're experiencing and I'm sure that they will post to share their support with you too. Just know that if you reach out then we're here for you. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Thankyou for the replies

    Yesterday was like a bad dream and unfortunately I woke today realising it wasn't a dream 

    I just feel empty and full of regret that I didn't do more with her or tell her I love her enough and always worrying about her condition rather than appreciating the time I had, it's so hard and I just can't stop feeling these negative thoughts 

Reply
  • Thankyou for the replies

    Yesterday was like a bad dream and unfortunately I woke today realising it wasn't a dream 

    I just feel empty and full of regret that I didn't do more with her or tell her I love her enough and always worrying about her condition rather than appreciating the time I had, it's so hard and I just can't stop feeling these negative thoughts 

Children
No Data