Just lost my Mum

After over 5 and a half years fighting a original diagnosis or 12 months, my mum tragically passed away around 5am this morning 

She had been fine up until Tuesday when she developed a lung and bowel infection, got admitted on Thursday night. Things then got worse however she showed big improvements the next morning. But then took another bad turn 

I managed to get there along with my sister and she was with it and cracking jokes, not scared and not much pain, knew we were there and told her I loved her.

She then went to sleep and I decided to go home for rest with my wife and dad, my sister then rang 3 hours later to say she had passed away in her sleep 

I've been preparing myself for this day for a long time but I am absolutely devastated, can't stop crying, so angry, sad etc and honestly don't know how ill get over it, I miss her so much already 

Her and my dad have been married 47 years, she was only 70 and myself 34 and my sister 27. No age atall to lose our mum.

I really don't know where to go from here :(

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  • Hi it does get easier over time but the thoughts come back now and again, just odd things get you thinking of her again I lost my mother over 40years ago,I was not yet 30 ,.

    She'd gone in for a routine hip replacement, she'd had Both done but the bone cracked at base of one pin, they were going to put a longer pin in but someone didn't read notes and she was on blood thinners and she bled to death on the operating table , it was a shock to me and my wife, I wanted to help arrange things with my father as I was only child but he wouldn't let me do anything. .it is very painful like I said jt does get easier over the years but never completely goes . make sure you have some keepsakes I got nothing my father kept everything, apart from odd things he gave to my step sister from a previous marriage .

    Take care.

    And commiserations .

    Billy

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  • Hi it does get easier over time but the thoughts come back now and again, just odd things get you thinking of her again I lost my mother over 40years ago,I was not yet 30 ,.

    She'd gone in for a routine hip replacement, she'd had Both done but the bone cracked at base of one pin, they were going to put a longer pin in but someone didn't read notes and she was on blood thinners and she bled to death on the operating table , it was a shock to me and my wife, I wanted to help arrange things with my father as I was only child but he wouldn't let me do anything. .it is very painful like I said jt does get easier over the years but never completely goes . make sure you have some keepsakes I got nothing my father kept everything, apart from odd things he gave to my step sister from a previous marriage .

    Take care.

    And commiserations .

    Billy

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