Lost my Dad Monday 23rd August, he had METS and deteriorted very quikly after finding out ( 3 weeks it took him ), I'm trying to support my mother at this time, she is a stroke victim also, the pain of this is tearing me apart and i'm trying my best to get myself together.

My Dad was so scared of hospital and i feel guilty for leaving him in there with no hope, he so wanted to come home, this haunts me now and i feel i let him down :(

In four weeks our second child is due, so i return to the very hospital where i lost my Dad.

People say loss gets easier to deal with, but will it :(

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your dads passing, my heart breaks for you. I lost both parents last year. My mum died of cancer on 2/7 and my dad passed away from a broken heart 4 days later. I didn't know how to even begin to carry on, the grief was overwhelming. I wish I could say it eases with time but it doesn't but you carry on because you have to. The grief is always there but you do learn to live with it. I miss my mum and dad everyday and I do break down quite a lot when the grief consumes me. You have to take each day as it comes , remember silly things about him that make you smile. Grief effects everyone differently so there are no right and wrongs. Just take care of yourself and feel blessed that you had such an amazing dad. Hugs love and hugs xxx

Hi leam

Thank you for those words, so sorry to hear about your mom and dad, the pain must be unbearable. Grief is now a part of my life and yes you are corect that you somehow learn to live with it, it made me so ill, i lost weight and went very distant from my family, after the birth of my daughter ( four days after dads funeral ) i could hear my dad saying to me in my mind 'Come on son get it together' i know he would have gave me a right telling off.

More than two months now since he passed and like yourself i break down alot but slowly the good times i shared with him are now starting to overtake those images of him in hospital. 

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You will have days when you can cope and days when you can't. The days you can't don't beat yourself up, sometimes you just have to give in and scream or cry. I can hear my dad all the time telling me that I need to move on and when I visit their grave I can hear him telling me I'm a twit for going up there in the rain . It gives me comfort. I hope you can find comfort in your daughter and in your memories. Just message if you want to vent xx

You will have days when you can cope and days when you can't. The days you can't don't beat yourself up, sometimes you just have to give in and scream or cry. I can hear my dad all the time telling me that I need to move on and when I visit their grave I can hear him telling me I'm a twit for going up there in the rain . It gives me comfort. I hope you can find comfort in your daughter and in your memories. Just message if you want to vent xx