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I’m really struggling with the fact my dad died

Moonlight99
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I don't really know where to turn because no one I know has really gone through this yet. 
I lost my dad 2 months ago and it's absolutely destroying me. My dad played both mum and dad and I've lost 2 parents in one and im broken. We spoke and saw each other every single day without fail and im so lonely without him. My heart has broken and I have no one to turn to. Im not depressed but im extremely sad, lonely and my heart has truly shattered. I try and talk to friends and family but they don't understand and I keep getting "I'm always here" and "at least you got to say goodbye". It's like my world has stopped and everyone else's is still going and I feel like whenever I'm around people I instantly drag their mood down. I just genuinely don't know how to cope that he is no longer here

I would like to just thank everyone for their kind words and support, it is very appreciated. I haven't had much time recently to reply but I want you all to know I'm here for you ️  you'll never be alone in the world when people as nice as you lot are here x

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    Hi just this Thurday the 19th of August my dad was told he has less than 24hrs left he is still here as of today, and iv been sitting with him and can see tears coming down both sides of his face he can barely talk just mumble, and I'm scared and really struggling to cope, reading Ur story has atleast helped me a little bit, I just can't accept the fact he is going to die here, can't believe it's My dad! He seemed ok just this Wednesday the day before !!

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    I just read your post and I felt compelled to respond. I’m sorry for what you are going through. It must be heart breaking and I can’t imagine what you are going through. My dad passed 3 weeks ago quite suddenly. I never got to say goodbye, tell him I loved him or hold his hand in his last moments. He was alone. His last moments keep playing in my mind and I would give an arm and a leg to have 5 mins with him again. So while your father is still with you please tell him how much you love him, hold his hand and let him know everything is going to be ok. Thinking of you and know that you are not alone. We are all on this horrible journey of grief. Be strong xx
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    I just read your post and I felt compelled to respond. I’m sorry for what you are going through. It must be heart breaking and I can’t imagine what you are going through. My dad passed 3 weeks ago quite suddenly. I never got to say goodbye, tell him I loved him or hold his hand in his last moments. He was alone. His last moments keep playing in my mind and I would give an arm and a leg to have 5 mins with him again. So while your father is still with you please tell him how much you love him, hold his hand and let him know everything is going to be ok. Thinking of you and know that you are not alone. We are all on this horrible journey of grief. Be strong xx
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