HI Trixie,

A very warm welcome to our forum, although I'm so sorry to hear why you're here,  My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. The loss of a loved one is always particularly difficult to cope with, but even more so when he didn't even get to live anywhere near to his predicted time. At best a prognosis is just a 'guesstimate' of how long we have left, but somehow or other we always feel cheated when we pass sooner than expected. We lost my father-in-law within 5 days of diagnosis in 2019. This was just months after his wife died and weeks before his youngest son was found dead in bed.

There are a number of different stages to grief and, I can fully understand why you find it so hard to accept that he has gone. Grief affects us all in different ways and everyone deals with it in his own way. You have had a terrible shock and this is all still very recent. It sounds as if you haven't accepted what has happened yet and, I wouldn't expect this to happen for some time yet. I am sglad to hear that your are crying most nights, as this can help to relieve some of the stress.

Do you have a family member or friend who you can talk to about how you feel? I am sorry to hear that you have caught Covid on top of all this - it's no wonder that you are feeling numb. I am glad to hear that this doesn't appear to be too debilitating. It sounds as if you are suffering from both shock and grief. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some time to come to terms with all that has happened. Unfortunately, this will take as long as it takes.

I am thinking of you and am always here for you if ever you want to talk.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

HI Trixie,

A very warm welcome to our forum, although I'm so sorry to hear why you're here,  My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. The loss of a loved one is always particularly difficult to cope with, but even more so when he didn't even get to live anywhere near to his predicted time. At best a prognosis is just a 'guesstimate' of how long we have left, but somehow or other we always feel cheated when we pass sooner than expected. We lost my father-in-law within 5 days of diagnosis in 2019. This was just months after his wife died and weeks before his youngest son was found dead in bed.

There are a number of different stages to grief and, I can fully understand why you find it so hard to accept that he has gone. Grief affects us all in different ways and everyone deals with it in his own way. You have had a terrible shock and this is all still very recent. It sounds as if you haven't accepted what has happened yet and, I wouldn't expect this to happen for some time yet. I am sglad to hear that your are crying most nights, as this can help to relieve some of the stress.

Do you have a family member or friend who you can talk to about how you feel? I am sorry to hear that you have caught Covid on top of all this - it's no wonder that you are feeling numb. I am glad to hear that this doesn't appear to be too debilitating. It sounds as if you are suffering from both shock and grief. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some time to come to terms with all that has happened. Unfortunately, this will take as long as it takes.

I am thinking of you and am always here for you if ever you want to talk.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx