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Losing my mum

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Hi I just wanted to post as my mum passed away this morning after being in hospital for the past 18 days. She went in after getting more and more tired and pain and lumps appearing in her neck. They operated to remove part of it from her throat but we got a call last night that it had spread. We finally got to see her last night and knew that she wouldn't make it through the night. It has come out of nowhere really she has had skin cancer and breast cancer before but she was at mine at Christmas all fine and now 29 days later she has passed away. It is the most devestating news I've ever had she was only 63. Now my dad is on his own and I just want to be there for him which is hard as I live with my partner and 2 children who are 2 and 4 years old. I just wanted to post and get it off my chest really as it's the worst situation I've been in and dealt with. Matt

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    Hi Matt,

    I wanted to reach out as I recently lost my mum too, on the 24th Jan after a 9 month battle with lymphoma. 
    It's really is quite hard to believe and comprehend. 34 years old & my mum was only 55. There are no words really.
    I don't have any siblings & too feel that my dad is left on his own-it's tough.
    Naturally we want to be supportive & take others pain away. However, it's important to find time & space for your own thoughts/feelings/loss too aswell as being a supporter.

    It's ok to keep a little back for yourself-it's doesn't need to be all or nothing etc (if that makes sense).

    Take care,

    Gemma

     

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    Hi Matt,

    I wanted to reach out as I recently lost my mum too, on the 24th Jan after a 9 month battle with lymphoma. 
    It's really is quite hard to believe and comprehend. 34 years old & my mum was only 55. There are no words really.
    I don't have any siblings & too feel that my dad is left on his own-it's tough.
    Naturally we want to be supportive & take others pain away. However, it's important to find time & space for your own thoughts/feelings/loss too aswell as being a supporter.

    It's ok to keep a little back for yourself-it's doesn't need to be all or nothing etc (if that makes sense).

    Take care,

    Gemma

     

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