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Losing my mum

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Hi I just wanted to post as my mum passed away this morning after being in hospital for the past 18 days. She went in after getting more and more tired and pain and lumps appearing in her neck. They operated to remove part of it from her throat but we got a call last night that it had spread. We finally got to see her last night and knew that she wouldn't make it through the night. It has come out of nowhere really she has had skin cancer and breast cancer before but she was at mine at Christmas all fine and now 29 days later she has passed away. It is the most devestating news I've ever had she was only 63. Now my dad is on his own and I just want to be there for him which is hard as I live with my partner and 2 children who are 2 and 4 years old. I just wanted to post and get it off my chest really as it's the worst situation I've been in and dealt with. Matt

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    Hi Matt,

    I am so so sorry to hear about your mum. This life is so cruel!

    I totally get where you are coming from, my amazing dad passed away in October 2020 following a two week battle with cancer. One minute he was fine, the next we had a diagnosis of cancer. I am so so lost without my dad as he did everything for me. I never thought at 32 I'd lose my dad.
     

    I completely understand you wanting to be there for your dad. In the same with my mum. I live with my partner and we were getting married in April but have cancelled this. I wish I could move back in with my mum and support her 24/7 but it's just so hard. I wish I had an answer for you. I contact my mum throughout the day and we talk more than ever. I always text first thing in the morning and last thing at night which I think helps.

     

    Remember to be kind to yourself. It's so tough at the moment and raw and with covid it makes it all so much harder to process but you are doing an amazing job. Remember your mum will be with you every step of the way x

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    Hi Matt,

    I am so so sorry to hear about your mum. This life is so cruel!

    I totally get where you are coming from, my amazing dad passed away in October 2020 following a two week battle with cancer. One minute he was fine, the next we had a diagnosis of cancer. I am so so lost without my dad as he did everything for me. I never thought at 32 I'd lose my dad.
     

    I completely understand you wanting to be there for your dad. In the same with my mum. I live with my partner and we were getting married in April but have cancelled this. I wish I could move back in with my mum and support her 24/7 but it's just so hard. I wish I had an answer for you. I contact my mum throughout the day and we talk more than ever. I always text first thing in the morning and last thing at night which I think helps.

     

    Remember to be kind to yourself. It's so tough at the moment and raw and with covid it makes it all so much harder to process but you are doing an amazing job. Remember your mum will be with you every step of the way x

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