Hi Matt,

I am so so sorry to hear about your mum. This life is so cruel!

I totally get where you are coming from, my amazing dad passed away in October 2020 following a two week battle with cancer. One minute he was fine, the next we had a diagnosis of cancer. I am so so lost without my dad as he did everything for me. I never thought at 32 I'd lose my dad.
 

I completely understand you wanting to be there for your dad. In the same with my mum. I live with my partner and we were getting married in April but have cancelled this. I wish I could move back in with my mum and support her 24/7 but it's just so hard. I wish I had an answer for you. I contact my mum throughout the day and we talk more than ever. I always text first thing in the morning and last thing at night which I think helps.

Remember to be kind to yourself. It's so tough at the moment and raw and with covid it makes it all so much harder to process but you are doing an amazing job. Remember your mum will be with you every step of the way x

Hi Matt,

I wanted to reach out as I recently lost my mum too, on the 24th Jan after a 9 month battle with lymphoma. 
It's really is quite hard to believe and comprehend. 34 years old & my mum was only 55. There are no words really.
I don't have any siblings & too feel that my dad is left on his own-it's tough.
Naturally we want to be supportive & take others pain away. However, it's important to find time & space for your own thoughts/feelings/loss too aswell as being a supporter.

It's ok to keep a little back for yourself-it's doesn't need to be all or nothing etc (if that makes sense).

Take care,

Gemma

Thankyou Gemma if you feel like you ever need to talk or anything just let me know it's a rubbish situation! 

Hi Matt, Sorry for your loss.

I have 3 year old and 5month old twins....Dad past on New Years Eve...from Cancer of oesophagas....he was paddle boarding in August! Funeral was last week, My Mum..Myself and Sister are very close and we are devastated....the twins and my daughter have pulled me through this....I am not religious but odd things have been happening to me.....Mum lives in next street, we speak all time as we always have done, I aren't seeing her as virus...but have been on walks outside...Siena has had COVID test each Friday and as results clear has stayed Mums every weekend...thus has been the absolute best I could do as.Mum and Dad adore her and she loves them so much, I am flat out with breastfeeding twins and just put house on market to give something fresh to focus on....it's going to be very hard but I must admit .,,Dad was so so poorly over December it was relief that he had no more pain....I am personally seeking comfort from (when I get chance ...)watching recordings of Long Island medium...channel tlc.......a book I ordered from Amazon called ghosts of the nhs which I since past to my Sister and am now reading....Monica the medium..messages from above....I posted nothing on Facebook....I only called my friends couldn't text.....as I say I believe in nothing but keep your eyes peeled as I mentioned had a few odd situations arise. Worst situation for me was the run up from diagnosis to passing...after this odd feeling swept over me like all was going to be ok and I would keep going....I have and so will you. Carla x

I am so sorry for you .. it too lost my mum on the 29th jan out of the blue.. I ran home from work and couldn't wait to see her and found her. She was a mum and dad to me and my brother and we can't stop crying feeling like 5 and 6 year olds. She had been through cancer twice and lots of operations and seemed ok .. just just never know the minute .. I am what wondering how I will ever feel happy again .. i loved her company .. I feel so sorry for everyone   On here who has a going through loss of mum because this is devastating xx  

Hi Matt, 

Im so so sorry to hear about your Mum. Nothing can ever prepare you for something like this. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for you not been able to visit your mum in hospital as you would of done pre-Covid. Cancer is an awful unforgiving disease and things can happen so fast. I'm going through a terminal diagnosis with my Grandad who is only 70 and more like a father to me. 
Sending so much love to you, your dad and your family x

Thankyou everyone I've felt talking about it with people has helped over the last few days and going to help my dad as well. Like I have said if anyone wants someone to talk to. Knowing people who have also been through the same situation makes it easier to understand if that makes sense.