I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mam at the end of August, also by stage 4 secondary breast cancer, so I can understand some of how you must be feeling.

I came to this forum as a way of coping and it has helped to some degree.

I know there will be days where you want to be alone but do try and reach out to people that are close to you.

Talk about your lovely mum and remember the times that you shared together.

My Dad and I talk often about my Mam and we have a smile and a laugh (and that's okay). She would want you to remember her, not with sadness. 

I'm honest with people when they ask now. Initially I was answering that dreaded question of "how are you?" with "yeah, I'm fine", not to make them feel uncomfortable. Of course you're not 'fine' and you're not going to be! So, I answer honestly, I feel numb and a bit lost. When I'm having a sad day and it's overwhelming me, which it does on occassion, I let people know. Your friends and family are there for you, use them as a support. 

I don't think that feeling of emptiness will ever go away sadly. My Mam was such a big presence in my life and that can never be filled, same for you. But it's important to remember that she will always be with you, in everything that you do.

I hope this goes some way to help you. The important thing is, take time for yourself! There's no time stamp on grief!

And talk! Tell people about your lovely mum and remember her. 

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mam at the end of August, also by stage 4 secondary breast cancer, so I can understand some of how you must be feeling.

I came to this forum as a way of coping and it has helped to some degree.

I know there will be days where you want to be alone but do try and reach out to people that are close to you.

Talk about your lovely mum and remember the times that you shared together.

My Dad and I talk often about my Mam and we have a smile and a laugh (and that's okay). She would want you to remember her, not with sadness. 

I'm honest with people when they ask now. Initially I was answering that dreaded question of "how are you?" with "yeah, I'm fine", not to make them feel uncomfortable. Of course you're not 'fine' and you're not going to be! So, I answer honestly, I feel numb and a bit lost. When I'm having a sad day and it's overwhelming me, which it does on occassion, I let people know. Your friends and family are there for you, use them as a support. 

I don't think that feeling of emptiness will ever go away sadly. My Mam was such a big presence in my life and that can never be filled, same for you. But it's important to remember that she will always be with you, in everything that you do.

I hope this goes some way to help you. The important thing is, take time for yourself! There's no time stamp on grief!

And talk! Tell people about your lovely mum and remember her.