Hi rachWBA,

I'm so sorry for your loss, it is heartbreaking to read your post.

My beautiful mum died in September 2018 from blood cancer and there isn't a day I don't think about her. I'm much older than you at 56 but ages don't matter, I understand a little of what you are going through. As others have said and it's an odd thing to say, my experience is that you have to go through the grief and it does bring you literally to your knees.

I'm not sure if anyone can say anything that will make you feel less sad at this time; it's only a very short time-10 weeks.

Your love for your dear mum comes through so strongly and your care for your dad, I found that you take on the grief of other family members; worrying about them.

May be worth chatting to your GP over the phone, mine was lovely, I also took Lavender tablets to try and help sleep. Although you may not feel like it, try and eat regularly , drink plenty water and if possible, walks in uncrowded places. I have pictures of mum around the house and I talk out loud to her, silly but helps me.

I try and think what my mum would say to me; she would put her arms around me and tell me not to worry, she embraced life before her diagnosis but also after, I try and be as strong as she was.

I guess I wanted to say that you won't feel it now but I promise it does get easier , you will find the strength to go on. A lovely lady on here says, we carry our mums safely in our hearts now, it is hard but our mums wouldn't want us to carry our sadness forever. My mum is looking down on me, dad and all the family, I think that's what mum's do, we may not be able to hold them in this life but I believe their spirits never leave us.

Thinking of you and hope you will be ok.

I always recall these words:-

The river of grief is deep and wide

but happiness awaits you on the other side

and the love of those around you, will take you there

Thinking of you,

Linda

x

Hi rachWBA,

I'm so sorry for your loss, it is heartbreaking to read your post.

My beautiful mum died in September 2018 from blood cancer and there isn't a day I don't think about her. I'm much older than you at 56 but ages don't matter, I understand a little of what you are going through. As others have said and it's an odd thing to say, my experience is that you have to go through the grief and it does bring you literally to your knees.

I'm not sure if anyone can say anything that will make you feel less sad at this time; it's only a very short time-10 weeks.

Your love for your dear mum comes through so strongly and your care for your dad, I found that you take on the grief of other family members; worrying about them.

May be worth chatting to your GP over the phone, mine was lovely, I also took Lavender tablets to try and help sleep. Although you may not feel like it, try and eat regularly , drink plenty water and if possible, walks in uncrowded places. I have pictures of mum around the house and I talk out loud to her, silly but helps me.

I try and think what my mum would say to me; she would put her arms around me and tell me not to worry, she embraced life before her diagnosis but also after, I try and be as strong as she was.

I guess I wanted to say that you won't feel it now but I promise it does get easier , you will find the strength to go on. A lovely lady on here says, we carry our mums safely in our hearts now, it is hard but our mums wouldn't want us to carry our sadness forever. My mum is looking down on me, dad and all the family, I think that's what mum's do, we may not be able to hold them in this life but I believe their spirits never leave us.

Thinking of you and hope you will be ok.

I always recall these words:-

The river of grief is deep and wide

but happiness awaits you on the other side

and the love of those around you, will take you there

Thinking of you,

Linda

x